Tattooed Maestro

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Se ti piace esageri sempre. Gli assaggi sanno di falso.

A D/s relationship, no matter how wonderful, does not guarantee that every day will be magical. It does not promise night after night of erotic ecstasy.

My greatest joy, and pleasure in regards to being a Dom isn’t all the kinky sex, it’s not all the rules, or punishments. It’s being my Submissives biggest fan, supporter, and what ever else she needs of me so that she can be the best version of her self, and to help her accomplish of the goals she has set for herself.

I will do anything and everything I can in regards to those two things. If she needs someone to help with homework, chores, cooking, cleaning, diet, guess what? That is all easy for me to do. If she needs someone to pick her up and carry her when the world has beat her down, guess what? I’ve got a strong back, strong arms, and I will protect her until she can stand on her own again. If she needs someone to help her fight her own thoughts, and her own demons, I’m going to be there right by her side every damn step of the way. If she needs a night out with her friends and someone to pick her up at the end of the night? Guess who’s going to be there to drive her home, make sure she has some water, and gets what she needs in the morning if she has a hangover? Me. If she gets sick and just wants to watch disney and cuddle with soup and tissues all day, I’ll have it all together before you can snap your fingers, and whistle.

That is what being a Dom means. It’s not shouting orders, it’s not spanking or beating someone until they’re purple and blue.

It’s doing everything you can to make sure that person who has trusted you, and submitted to you, has everything they need to be the best version of themselves. That they have everything they need to accomplish their personal goals.