#yan question

It ultimately depends on the type of yandere you attract for the other things that can go on.

For me, I know that a majority of yans are worried that their interest, or their darling, will leave them so they must do anything to get their darling to love them and only focus on them. Yans tend to be obsessive due to a lot of reasons, some even going from BPD (bipolar disorder) to OLD (obsessive love disorder though not seen as a real disorder in some cases/areas).

Every yan has their own way of loving and showing that love and affection. Ranging from the double-suicide or self harm type to a worship type. Yans can also have more than one type. Such as being a worship + stalker and so on.

For a darling, it’s also important to note what type of yan you’ve attracted and what can be done to further help when they need reassurance, as you would with anyone.

Yans also need to be loved and appreciated for who they are at the end of the day. They’re not bad people, they deserve love and care just like any other person. Some yans don’t like the fetishized version, some others might. A lot of others (like me) are hurt by the feelings of obsession and jealousy due to how bad it can get.

Using me as an example. I’m a worship type yan but I don’t want the romance, I’m a very platonic obsessive person though I do sometimes wonder about relationships just not enough to act on them (this also causes me to question my sexuality and I haven’t truly given it much thought in a few years). For my darling (I.e friend I’m obsessed with), I will do anything that puts me in the position of doing what they want to allow them to only focus on me; the reassurance I like is that I’m the only friend they truly need and, if it comes down to it (which in a way I’d make), they’d pick me over everyone else.