#yukibites

I can be the best friend or a mother. You can’t leave when I take care of you. You’ll ruin my heart if you leave me just because you think you find someone “better.”

You really think that there’s someone that can treat you better than I can? No one will know you as well as I do! I pay attention to the little things and I can take care of you during the night.

I can cook you an early morning breakfast before going to bed myself. I can tuck you in every night and make sure that you’re safely sound asleep before I leave to have something to occupy my time.

You don’t want me sitting on the bed while you rest? That’s alright. You want to be held while you’re sleeping for extra comfort to help heal your inner child? Of course, honey. You want to sit up and change your sleep schedule to fit mine? Aww, that’s so sweet! I’ll make sure there’s things set up for both of us to enjoy.

I like taking care of people, even if it leads to obsession. You just need me! I can provide everything you need and have ever wanted. I promise.

Just… make sure to know that I’ll also be around as your personal vampiric friend as well.

You’re bleeding? I’ll take care of it. Oh, no! I won’t lick the wound, the mouth has the most germs and I can’t risk that getting infected no matter how badly I want to have a taste. You’re curious on what your blood tastes like? I’ll tell you as long as you let me clean the wound and make sure you’re okay.

It ultimately depends on the type of yandere you attract for the other things that can go on.

For me, I know that a majority of yans are worried that their interest, or their darling, will leave them so they must do anything to get their darling to love them and only focus on them. Yans tend to be obsessive due to a lot of reasons, some even going from BPD (bipolar disorder) to OLD (obsessive love disorder though not seen as a real disorder in some cases/areas).

Every yan has their own way of loving and showing that love and affection. Ranging from the double-suicide or self harm type to a worship type. Yans can also have more than one type. Such as being a worship + stalker and so on.

For a darling, it’s also important to note what type of yan you’ve attracted and what can be done to further help when they need reassurance, as you would with anyone.

Yans also need to be loved and appreciated for who they are at the end of the day. They’re not bad people, they deserve love and care just like any other person. Some yans don’t like the fetishized version, some others might. A lot of others (like me) are hurt by the feelings of obsession and jealousy due to how bad it can get.

Using me as an example. I’m a worship type yan but I don’t want the romance, I’m a very platonic obsessive person though I do sometimes wonder about relationships just not enough to act on them (this also causes me to question my sexuality and I haven’t truly given it much thought in a few years). For my darling (I.e friend I’m obsessed with), I will do anything that puts me in the position of doing what they want to allow them to only focus on me; the reassurance I like is that I’m the only friend they truly need and, if it comes down to it (which in a way I’d make), they’d pick me over everyone else.

I don’t like being big on drinking blood of anything, but I’m here if you think something’s off with it or wanting to ask how it tastes. Or even making sure you’re okay while bleeding.

I love garlic bread. The thing that I hate the most is gluten. Gluten is my garlic for things.

I love practicing witch craft.

I like going outside to take photos of the plants around. I hate the sun and the heat but I’m not going to let it stop me.

I’m in love with pastel goth and want more outfits but I also much rather prefer darker clothes. Steampunk is my favorite, though.

I’m platonically obsessive. I’m aroace but that doesn’t stop me from being obsessive towards people.

It might stop me from being in a relationship, but I still love people in my own way.

I’m the worship type, not the murder type. I’m the caretaker type, not the violent type.

It’s okay for me to be different and it’s okay for me to be… me.

I feel like there’s always stereotypes that stops people from being inclusive of others.

They know I’m obsessive but they still refuse to spend time with me at times. Talk with me. Don’t make me always be the one to text first. Show me you care. Show me that I’m not something to fill your time with.

I want to be worth something to you, not someone that you go to only as a last resort.

I’ve had interactions with people that I didn’t know if I’d enjoy, but once I sat down to actually get to know them, they become friends. But that was different towards the ones I didn’t want to speak with based on instinctual feelings. Something I couldn’t put my finger on, but feeling like something there is dangerous, and that has yet to fail me.

I understand that it’s human to judge people, but at the same time, I don’t understand why we let it get the best of us.

I’ve seen people judge people simply online because of something that they think is different or want to put everyone into boxes.

I think the primary thing that gets to me is how someone with BPD can so easily demonize someone else with BPD or another Cluster B disorder and say things about them. Such as seeing others with BPD symptoms talking about how they despise or hate other people with the same disorder labeling their experiences and connecting with the yandere label. I see nothing wrong with it.

Obsessive love is painful, it hurts. Seeing someone you love that hurts you, even with the smallest things, hurts. I, along as others I know, consider ourselves yans because we are overly obsessive to the point it hurts, we’d do anything, and it makes us feel more comfortable with our identities.

If someone uses it in comfort of an identity, I don’t see why someone has any right to say “all of these people are mocking a disorder,” when that isn’t true. Some people can be mocking, others are connecting to an identity that makes them feel more comfortable with who they are.

It’s never a bad thing to try and understand someone before jumping to conclusions on how they present themselves. But, maybe, I just don’t understand the new concept of social media and how hatred continues to blossom.