to be honest i don't really get the vibe that olruggio is confused, insecure, heartbroken or that he would even consider his and qifrey's thing a situationship. he's obviously frustrated that qifrey keeps secrets and doesn't ask for help in whatever the fuck it is he's up to. but to me, he believes whatever they have is the most that qifrey can offer and he's 100% okay with it. like, maybe qifrey will never be comfortable being physical with olly or with the idea of long term commitment. maybe that's something rooted (ha) in his childhood trauma and maybe it isn't. it's funny to make memes about it but i don't really see olruggio losing sleep like "WHAT ARE WE"