one genderfluid femme 4 year old
This is straight up fucking child abuse. I can't believe I have to say this, and I can't believe there are people out there that don't get it:
Don't force your goddamn special snowflake mental-masturbatory "xe" shit onto your kids. You identify as Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade or a loaf of bread? Fine by me. But your children are still growing.
They don't need their lives to be needlessly convoluted, they don't need things that will set them up for trouble later in life, and they sure don't need your imposing your own values on them before they know any better.
That's what normal people call "indoctrination" and "brainwashing."