#venus-pluto asks

Venus-Square-Pluto

Everything in their chart can point to them being a ‘soft’ person (with high moral integrity). 

But when it’s put into a context that ‘activates’ Venus-Square-Pluto, they may find themselves discovering a deeper, darker (and more passionate) part of their psyche (Pluto) that empowers them to seek dominance or monopoly of their Venus-activated subjects sometimes.

Venus-Square-Pluto people might find themselves reacting instinctively-- often illogically and passionately devoted to someone/something. 

Venus, as a planet of social relationship, romance, artistry and when creating friction with Pluto that embodies powerful discovery, transformation, passion and deeper psyche --  can often ‘transform’ the person into wanting sovereignty over their relationship/reacting intensely to something/someone without consulting their other placements.

Thus, why it seems illogical. But at the same time they possess an almost self-sacrificial ability to give everything to their lovers. Their only compensation is trying to make sure that the other person does the same. 

This leads them to ‘prompt’ the other--- ‘demand’ something from them or sometimes be possessive/manipulative in order to ‘secure’ the relationship.

They might find themselves repeating cycles/patterns with their lovers, because they truly want to understand, connect and ‘unravel’ the other person entirely. This is insatiable drive that they often does constantly, in order to see the ‘results’ they want-- that the other is just as equally passionate as they are.

*While it may seem ‘bad’ or detrimental it’s also a part that we have to understand in order to overcome/work through it better.

The thing with Venus-Square-Pluto (or the lesson they have to learn here) is that all the negative thoughts; all the whys and hows --- is a reflection of themselves that they are projecting onto others, which is what’s causing the tension in the first place.

See, Venus is also about reflection. (Think 7H/DSC) You want your partner to be like you or ‘reflect’ the things you want to see. The lesson Venus bring is self-reflection, the Venus-Square-Pluto person has to realize their need to control the others/feed on the other so much is because they need to be just as thorough with themselves.  

Romantic relationship gives them a ‘subject’ they can sink their teeth into. When really it should’ve been themselves that they actually want to understand, discover and see all the uglies with. 

In a way, there’s a subconscious fear of seeing all their own uglies in Venus-Square-Pluto aspect. Which is why this control/possessiveness can be projected on the partner. And thus, the manipulation/cycles happen.

Love (Venus) and Power (Pluto) -- if you think about it as Venus-Pluto as is, it’s supposed to be talking about ‘Love of Power’ right? And if add the ‘self’ (instead of the ‘partner’) -- it would be ‘Love the Empowerment of Self’ instead. 

Manipulation happens when they ‘Love the Empowerment they Have Over Others’ (replacing the ‘self’ with ‘others). Look to see where it stems from, usually it’s a fear of their own self-worth or the self. 

A way to help with this placement is to confront the cause of fear the Venus-Square-Pluto stem from. If it’s something like ‘I always get into terrible fights, because we’re possessive over each other’ -- what’s the main cause of that possessiveness? Surface stuff like lack of time, lack of interaction isn’t cutting it. 

Sink deeper into the reason, is it loneliness? Is it telling you you’re a lonely person at heart and with/without a partner? Maybe you’ve always felt lonely by yourself-- so now that you have someone who fills it up, you’re unwilling to part with it so you don’t go back again?

The cause of Venus-Square-Pluto’s tension is always from themselves. And it’s always something to do with their psyche. So try to discover your own psyche and it’ll help you learn how to build a more equalized, stable and probably more fruitful relationship.

Also, realize that it’s all just a part of nature. There’s nothing to be ashamed of if you don’t ‘fit’/‘succeed’ at falling into what we consider to be a ‘healthy/conventional’ relationship instantly. 

Understanding the psyche also means understanding/accepting/tolerating what you were feeling/doing honestly as well. Nature can be helped through nurture.