#unalligned

Othran is a nonbinary alternative for woman or man. The term was created on July 1st 2023, by me. Note that "nonbinary alternative" does not mean it's "unisex/gender neutral" meaning it could refer to anyone of any gender, it is explicitly for nonbinary people who are not women or men in any way.

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Not a bother at all!

I am an unaligned nonbinary lesbian. I have a long answered ask where I explain nonbinary lesbians (including unaligned ones) but basically this means that I do not identify as male or female and I don’t really associate with womanhood or manhood, instead I am just somewhere in the middle. Personally, I only associate with womenhood when it comes to my attraction to women aka the lesbian part. So it’s less that I’m associated with womanhood and more like I only associate with womanhood in this part of my life. But that’s just my personal experience with this label.

As for aspec part, I’m asexual and arospec. The asexual is self explanatory (I don’t experience sexual attraction) but arospec is a little more complicated. Personally, I am autistic and my arospec orientation stems from that. I do experience romantic attraction but it is really hard for me to differentiate between romantic and platonic feelings. This can make it difficult to really feel romantic attraction because it gets so easily muddled.

Aroace nonbinary lesbian is 100% a valid label but I understand it being difficult to fit all the pieces together when trying to describe sexuality, romantic orientation, and gender all together. I cannot tell you what you are since I don’t have your experiences or feelings but I hope reading about my personal experiences helped somewhat! Feel free to send more asks in or DM me if you have more questions!

I don’t know a ton of blogs but you could try:

@lesbianb (nonbinary and trans wlw centric)

@nb-lesbian-positivity (nonbinary lesbian centric)

@aroacelesbian (aroace lesbian centric)

First off, thank you for being so respectful and kind. I’ll do my best to answer your question. (Also this is kind of a long one so I apologize)

The thing about nonbinary is that it is such a broad and diverse label that includes a whole range of genders (or lack thereof). This means that all nonbinary people are different and have different experiences and feelings when describing their gender and their attraction to others. Some nonbinary people would be okay calling themselves a lesbian and others would not, it’s all up to their personal relationship with their gender and their sexuality/romantic orientation.

Some nonbinary people consider themselves woman-aligned, meaning that while they are not women they associate with womanhood more strongly than not. They then might consider themselves lesbians because they are woman-aligned and exclusively attracted to women and other woman-aligned people.

There are also some nonbinary people (like me) who are unaligned. Personally I find this excerpt from the faq of the blog @sapphicsinthecloset (a blog I am a mod for) to be very accurate when it comes to how unaligned nonbinary lesbians can connect to womanhood-

A feeling many nb wlw experience, while existing outside the binary, only “feel like a woman” while experiencing attraction to other women so its less of a “i’m associated with womanhood” and more of a “i only associate myself with womanhood in this aspect of my life”.

And of course, this can be true for all nonbinary wlw, whether they consider themselves woman-aligned or unaligned.

So in summary, people can be both nonbinary and lesbian because gender and sexuality are complicated.

Hello and they’ve been reserved for you!

   UNPOPULAR OPINIONS.  (  no longer accepting.  )

ooc.  purple prose is not necessarily bad writing   --   there are numerous classics that are written with such a heavy hand,  but have so much meaning as a work as a whole.  (  read:  shakespeare,  dickens,  hawthorne  --  i could go on, but i won’t.  )  and while  -  yes   -  there is some writing on tumblr that is purpled,  there should  NOT  be a dismissal of purple prose as a whole.   bad writing is  just  bad writing;   but it is not the amount of vibrancy or adjectives that one injects into a work that determine what is bad and what is not.

what matters,  instead,  is whether the writing is  true to itself.  whether your passion is evident in it,  WHETHER OR NOT YOU CARE ENOUGH TO GET THE MESSAGE IN YOUR WRITING ACROSS.  if you’re writing   ‘  purple prose  ‘  simply because you think it’s the popular thing to do, then your writing is bad.  it isn’t true to yourself.

but writing that is more simple can be bad writing,  too.  we only pick out purple prose because it’s more difficult to read,  it’s more poetic  (  and i think there’s a lack of appreciation for poetry in writing, these days  --  and we are all the worse for it.  poetry can have so much meaning and can tell a story just as well as any novel can,  but we’re so willing to dismiss it.  either because of its length or because it’s been disparaged as an art form for so many years in recent history.  )  and it isn’t what we’re used to,  maybe,  as modern readers.

i write simply because it’s   my    style   --   it’s true to myself.  and that’s what separates  ‘  good  ‘  writing from  ‘  bad  ‘  writing;  not how i choose to word things,  not how i choose to phrase them.  

THREE WORD STARTERS.

         “Uh huh.” Deacon nodded, staring at the inebriated man. 

He then sighed, and wordlessly, without any instruction, supported the stumbling man by offering a shoulder to lean on. He wasn’t sure where they were headed and what was Jack’s intended location but he assumed that it would not be a deathclaw nest or a Gunner stronghold. The man was heavy (which shouldn’t be a surprise considering his knifey, melee approach to anything running the gamut between human and radroach) and Deacon had to alternate between dragging and propping him up.

“Have you ever of Plato’s Allegory of the Cave?” he quipped between grunts. The look he received from the drunk man did little to confirm if he was listening but Deacon continued.