#transparencytuesday

Transparency Tuesday moment. Parenting Every morning I am on a Zoom with other amazing women who are working early in the morning (like 6am) pursuing their business goals... What I love the most is that we are women who support one another but also we can share our experiences with one another. This morning I shared a regret... I know we're not supposed to live in them but I feel as though you should acknowledge them and move past. I felt as though I did not have an ideal childhood growing up, therefore, I wanted my daughter to have EVERYTHING especially since my husband was killed. I never wanted her to feel what it was like to be poor, therefore, I worked really hard to make sure she had everything that she needed and probably more than she needed. We traveled all over the world and when we were home she was truly spoiled with houses, cars, tutors, personal chef, maid and driver.... What I shared this morning is.. Did I mess her up? Did I ruin her perception of what real life is like? Once she was on her own and off to college expecting someone to come and make up her bed... Whose fault was that?? Are we ruining our kids giving them everything that we didn't have?? Does it not provide them the grit that they need to survive life?? Well at this point I'm doing something very hard to do.... FORGIVE MYSELF... WE MUST REMEMBER THAT LIVING IN REGRETS HELPS NOTHING... FORGIVE YOURSELF!!! MOVE ON AND TRUST THE PROCESS!!! I LOVE HER!!! #TransparencyTuesday #noregrets #love #community #mommylove #daughter (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B376ZrpgA3w/?igshid=1dt1kdu3p6p4l

I'm far from a mystery. I'm naked looking out my window, and I'm realizing how spoiled I am in the summertime when the trees outside offer legit privacy from my neighbors across the street...my plants aren't tall enough and the branches outside are bare these days...#journeysinvulnerability #transparencytuesday https://www.instagram.com/p/BqaJBBWghPF/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=dsvihe3d4ncl

Hi my name is Monique and I'm a health coach. However I'm also HUMAN!!! I have been up and down also all around on my scale lately😫😩😬😳😱 This healthy lifestyle journey will have bumps in the road but I got the vehicle to keep on moving😜🤪"MIND OVER MATTER BABY"!!! #transparencytuesday #truthtuesday #notperfect #selfdiscipline #selflove #stayfocused #itsnoteasy #butitsworthit #makingsomechanges #ilovemybody #ionlygetone #nutrition #fitness #motivation #consistency #backtothebasics #septembergoals #healthcoachmonique #thickfitmom https://www.instagram.com/p/BnCjSlaABLn/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1igoo422okidr

So @tasharajc should know that I have to remix #surrenderDecember and since it's today, in calling it #transparencytuesday (sadly I can't say I came up with it first but I did). I've had a friend of mine address this with me, & despite me not being at church in months, my pastor made this reference and I'm gonna share this with the masses. Many of the people I'm around really don't know that I do my best to meet people where they (sad, happy, pissed, silent, etc). Most of the time folks think their moments that lack positivity are gonna run me off...they don't. I'm gonna be right there when you're out of you rut to say something that could possibly make you smile or get your mind off of whatever it is. However, if the "leave me alone" sign is held up high with pride, then I truly back off and give you all of the space you need. Sometimes the two most important pieces of connections and understandings with people are TIME and SPACE. Time makes you value someone when they're around and space is where the missing and wondering of their well being comes into play. Many of my friends get that message just saying hey because I may not know something is going on, but I also want them to know that if they need an ear or a set of eyes to read something I'm there. So my transparency Tuesday which is my surrender going into 2018 is my skill to meet people where they are, even when they don't wanna be met.

Will you share the parts that don't feel so good? Sharing my story helped in my healing process. I know my story will help so many other women across the globe! Remember, your story doesn't belong to you, it belongs to others that may need to hear that there is purpose on the other side of pain. Share your story! Someone out there needs it! Pre-Order your copy of my book, Heal Before You Deal TODAY! Link in bio! #WomenUntangled #shareyourstory #transparency #healingstartswithyou #HealBeforeYouDeal #transparencytuesday #transformationcoach

#transparencytuesday Learning to accept some body fat gain....during #offseasonprep.....in order to gain some muscle....is where I am right now. I've seen a lot of people talk about taking offseason seriously and gaining size and self love blah blah blah.. but why isn't anyone showing the actual process, while they are going through it rather than always posting throwbacks and waiting until they are shredded and confident again to start talking about it? The picture on the left was right after my last competition in July, I didn't actually start my official "offseason" until after my photo shoot at beginning of October..picture on the right was taken about 5 minutes ago. I'm 1 month into my offseason with almost zero ab definition and this is the first picture I've taken of myself because let's face it pictures in offseason just aren't as impressive as pictures when you're shredded. My point of this post is remind you not beat yourself up for not feeling comfortable taking selfies or get great pictures of yourself like you do when you're shredded or at least at your leanest. There's a time and place for everything and if you're serious about gaining muscle then you'll have to get comfortable being uncomfortable and put on a little more weight than you'd probably like. Do I enjoy being this heavy? Not at all.. I'm quite uncomfortable but I know that in order to achieve the physique I want, this is something I have to do and walking around shredded all the time just simply is not healthy. For everyone out there experiencing this right now, where you're heavier than you'd like to be and you're not as lean as you'd like to be, I am right there with you. You have to keep your long term goals in mind at all times and not get so caught up in what everyone else is doing or how everyone else is looking. Just focus on your goals and what you need to do to achieve them.... it's the key to being successful, shut out everyone else and mind your own business. Get comfortable being uncomfortable and remember that this is a marathon, not a sprint. Stay focused and keep grinding people, I'm right here with you👊❤ #bodybuilding #roadtonationals2017

A little glimpse behind the scenes #transparencytuesday (at Washington, District of Columbia)

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