#transmanconfessions

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The other day I saw a flannel with the trans flag colors on it. I wanted it, then mentally beat myself up because light blue and pink is “too girly” and a flannel is “too girly.”

If I don’t constantly try to morph into an embodiment of roughness, toxic masculinity, and being unhygienic, I’m “too girly.”

Oh wow this was like a year ago lol. I still think about it sometimes and I'm still a bit miffed over it, but he didn't do anything like this again before I moved, or at least not to me and my coworker. I did avoid him as much as I could tho lmao.

I do have another story tho. I work with the same company, but in a different position at a different location with a completely different job description. (I still have to be able to lift, but that's not relevant here lol) ANYWAY this happened soon after I changed positions. I don't bind to work because long work days and I'm more paranoid about my health than I am dysphoric. Which is saying something, bc I'm hella dysphoric.

I have a rather large chest, and one of my new coworkers, who at that point I'd only known for maybe a week, would not stop misgendering me. When I finally got up the nerve to correct her, she brought up my chest. Literally said "You have boobs" and walked away. I'm happy to say I was actually the last person there to say something to the manager - I'm night shift, he's day. Everyone else who was there told him immediately, and I waited until the next day when I saw him - in person. He had already submitted the case to HR before I had talked to him about it. Love him, he's great.

Now the sucky thing is, she had the highest numbers. Our work has deadlines, and we can't push some of them back without hella repercussions. This was one of those jobs. We needed her so we could get it done. So I just avoided her, didn't say a word to her.

During that time, we hired a temp. The boss gave the temp to me to train bc I've shown that I know what I'm doing. Bitch coworker decided she didn't like that. She'd been working there fourteen years, and here I was, a green newbie, not even there two months, training a temp.

I remember saying something like "It's okay if you miss some, your partner can fix it--" and bitch coworker interrupted and took the temp to her area, loudly proclaiming "She doesn't know what she's doing". By "she", she meant me.

The rest of my sentence was going to be "-for now, but when you get comfortable with the software, you'll have to fix it yourself." But that's besides the point. I was mad about that, yeah, but I was even more pissed that bitch coworker was back on her shit. So I talked to the boss again and we decided it would be best to put me on day shift until HR did its thing.

I was on day shift for a couple weeks, bitch coworker was let go, and when I went back to night shift, /everyone/ told me that bitch ex-coworker had been talking shit about me behind my back since the second she met me.