#trans issue

you can't be a trans ally but only to trans women.

you can't be a trans ally but only to trans men.

I don’t think there should be discrimination against transgender wrestlers or transgender people at all. They have rights, and to that end, I absolutely stand by Nyla Rose. AEW stands by Nyla Rose and all transgender people who want to play sports. And this is wrestling, there was nothing wrong with it.

Nyla Rose is a great wrestler, she’s a great world champion and I love Nyla. I love working with Nyla and she’s been a great part of our history, she was the first transgender world champion ever, and she’s a great part of the AEW Together program. She does a ton for the community, she’s a great person with a great heart.

She’s very supportive of the other wrestlers, one of the funniest people on social media; I’ve personally nominated Nyla to TBS for the best social media presence on more than one occasion over the years. She’s an AEW original, she’s been part of this team since 2019, going back to the first year of AEW, the first shows, and the first Dynamite.

And look at everything Nyla has accomplished, and to just put that label on her, it’s just not right. She’s much more than that. She’s a great athlete and I hope everybody can look at Nyla and see that she’s a great wrestler and she deserves the same chances as everybody else. And if the AEW locker room — which consists of people from all over the world, all kinds of different backgrounds, beliefs — if everybody in the locker room can embrace Nyla, I would hope that the Oklahoma Commission could do the same thing.”

Then there’s the other side of the coin: people getting upset because they are being read as cis, which causes an identity crisis in its own right. It’s like, is the goal to be seen as the gender you say you are, or is it to be recognized as trans and affirmed?

Nobody can seem to agree. And that’s the irony: when your entire movement’s baseline becomes altering your body to visually conform to a specific ideal That’s capitalism. That’s buying your way into palatability. It’s not liberation, it’s assimilation with extra surgery.

If any trans people want to talk to me, the evil witchy TERF you all love to hate....like genuinely, I have a question. Why is it so bad to be seen as trans? Where’s the pride in it? Where’s the “trans is beautiful” energy when the overwhelming obsession is about not being clocked, not being recognized, not standing out? Shouldn’t that say something about how deeply the self-hatred runs, how much it’s rooted in shame rather than liberation?

Because from where I stand, there’s nothing wrong with saying, “Yeah, I was born female, but I feel more comfortable presenting masculine.” That’s honest. That’s even admirable. But the second someone says “I feel more comfortable as a man,” it becomes a contest of how convincing you can be, how much you can disappear into the cis mold. And the wildest part? Some of you then complain when you do pass when your own community starts treating you like a cis person and suddenly you feel erased again. So what is it? What is the goal?

If the foundation of your identity is changing your body until the world sees you differently, then let’s be honest: that’s not a rebellion. That’s capitalism. That’s body modification as validation, not liberation. And if “being seen as trans” feels like a failure to you, then maybe don’t come for women who are just saying, “Hey, I’m proud of what I am.”

Something else I don’t understand is the visceral hatred some trans people have toward their past selves. The way they recoil from old photos, old names, old bodies, as if that version of them was something filthy, something to erase. Like… that was you. Why do you hate them? Why is your instinct disgust instead of compassion? When I look at photos of myself from before, when I was angry, depressed, lost, I don’t want to delete her. I think, “Damn, she went through hell and survived. I’m proud of her.”

That’s still my story. I don’t need to obliterate her to become myself. So it makes me wonder: if your identity is built on rejecting your own history, how solid can it really be?

And even when you say your past self would think you look cool now, stronger, freer, more “you” why are you still so mean to them? Why do you talk about them like they were a mistake, something to scrub out of existence? If they’d look at you with awe, shouldn’t you look back with kindness? That girl or boy or in-between version carried you here. They endured the pain, the confusion, the violence of growing up in a body you were told was wrong. They weren’t weak for surviving. They were brave. So why treat them like a ghost you’re ashamed of?

Even the whole “deadnaming” concept it’s always struck me as strange.

Like… why do you talk about your past self like they’re dead? Like they were some cursed creature you buried behind a new haircut and a few surgeries. If someone’s being a jerk and using your old name to mock or undermine you that’s one thing. That’s disrespect. But most of the time it feels like the panic isn’t just about other people. It’s about you not wanting to remember. It’s like saying, “Don’t mention that name, don’t show me those photos, don’t remind me of that body, I’ve erased them.”

You can’t grow if you’re always running from the roots. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting.

I received a denial letter from then today saying that they would not cover a medication due to my "Transsexualism"

This insurance company has fought me at every step of the way, and now in pride month they used this outdated, disrespectful term for me. I called today to file a complaint with little success.

Quando é que uma mulher ia ficar cuspindo xingamentos na cara de um homem, como se não fosse nada? Como se ela não soubesse quais seriam as consequências de seus atos?

Nenhuma mulher chegou no mamãe falei e invadiu o espaço dele para ficar cuspindo na cara dele durante aquela palhaçada dele no evento do CA da medicina!

So is it normal that i don't have dysphoria for everything ? Like i don't mind the lower half of my body but boy oh boy do i hate everything up

Is it normal that i keep misgendering myself ? Even in my head ? Knowing that i'm in the closet except online and to my closest friends

And do you have any tips to calm down when you're feeling hella dysphoric ?

I just discovered that i was more masculine like 4 months ago so everything is relatively new to me

I mean, i knew some stuff bc i always have a queer timeline but it's all in english so i have no idea how it works in france