#top notes post

I actually do not think "most trans men" do ANYTHING the way "any other women" do. because trans men are not women for them to be "other women." nice Freudian slip asshole.

also. "before they started looking like cis men" NO! we look like MEN. cis men look like me. there is no fundamental separation between me & cis men that I can only "look like". we are all men. and we get privileges as MEN. just because as trans men they are not always 100% given to us doesn't mean we don't get them. Just because our access to them is conditional doesn't make us less men, that conditionality is there for literally every kind of man. All men are under conditional privilege, that's how privilege works!! why do you want those privileges so bad and not just like. rights. why do you want the privilege & entitlement to enter women's spaces as a man? it's a woman's space. why do you want it? & if you think of yourself as partially a woman then like. no wonder you get dysphoric ab not being in women's spaces but that's a separate issue???

but we need a word for when someone has multiple genders (/ isn't monogender) & ppl technically "gender them correctly" but only /partly/ & only in the way they find most acceptable

you cannot be /verse/ (both a top & a bottom) and stone. sure, you can be 'service when I top, just lay back when I bottom' but you cannot define that as 'stone.' saying such paints an inaccurate view of what both a stone top & a stone bottom is. stuff like that leads to ppl arguing with us over what stone means & insisting we could compromise. it leads to people painting stone bottoms as lazy & selfish while stone tops get painted as predatory & scared of intimacy.