AIO for telling my partner that she needs to stop relying on me for absolutely every emergency.
Throwaway because my S/O knows my main account. Yesterday I(40M) threw my back out and I can barely even move. This morning my partner(31F) tells me her low tire pressure light is on after work. Knowing she knows how to put air in her tires and that there is a 24/7 gas station, near where she works at. She calls me in a panic because when she tried to put air in her tire she deflated it the rest of the way. I told her to go get a can of fix a flat from the convenience store attached to the gas station with step by step instructions on how to use it. She gets upset because I'm not coming to help her change her tire. I told her its something I wouldn't be able to do in the condition I am anyways, I can barely even stand up, and that she needs to stop relying on other people when things go wrong all the time because things happen and sometimes you have to be able to handle things yourself, or to sign up for AAA.
I get that I may be over reacting because a flat tire is not fun, and when you don't know how to change a tire its daunting. But I have also offered to teach her how to teach her how to change a tire twice in the past when I have had to come and rescue her on the side of the road from flat tires. She refused both times.
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (98% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR. At 31 , you should know how to handle these situations yourself.”
Notable comment: “NOR. Your partner is a grown woman and she should be able to figure things out on her own. I don't even ask my husband to help me with a low tire when the car is in my own garage.
As an aside, how the heck did she completely deflate her tire? And, can't she just screw the hose back on and reinflate it? It isn't that difficult.
I guess that's the point. It's not that difficult. It's one thing to call you for really big emergencies. This is not an emergency. This is just an annoying thing. Your girlfriend needs to put on her big girl pants and act like an adult. In fact, I think it's good that you're not going to help. It sounds like your girlfriend has always had someone do all these little things for her. There are going to be times when there is nobody around to help and she's going to have to problem solve for herself. Let Her learn to do that.
Also, there might not be anything wrong with that tire. She probably doesn't need to fix a flat. It could just be set a change in temperature caused that hire two go a little low. I had that happen a couple weeks ago. I just hooked up my little tire pump that comes with my car and put in the eight PSI it was low. It's been fine for the last 2 weeks.”
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Voting ended onJul 11
Originally shared by Outrageous-Bird635 on r/AmIOverreacting on July 3rd, 2026 at 1:11 PM UTC. Credit to u/qlukeer and u/doglady1342 for the quoted comments.
