#thephokus

Definitely! I’m very aware of that, as we create as we think and interact with everything. Yet, there are some themes we choose before we are born. Like things we want to experience. They can appear in many different forms as nothing is set 100% to stone. It would defy our free will - something even The God can’t intervene with.

There are a few wonderful and interesting experiences of these pre-set VS free will themes I have encountered. Both personal, with loved ones and via others’ stories.

One of these other stories came from a near-death experience. A woman died and was greeted with loving spirits, who told her that she’s dead and now it’s time to return home. Rather remarkable, as pretty much all NDEs include spirits telling it’s not yet the person’s time and they need to go back.

This woman had recently had a baby and she was very, very worried of him. The spirits showed her that her husband would remarry and the new wife wouldn’t take that good care of the son. This was because it was part of the lessons the son has chosen before being born. The mother, however, absolutely REFUSED to let any other woman look after her son and neglect him like that!

There was a little “debate” where the woman refused to accept her death and the spirits tried to assure that all would be well. It ended when a higher spirit appeared and told everyone that they should let this woman return back. Otherwise she would end up a restless spirit. The woman told that the higher spirit arranged her son’s life lessons again so that he would still go through his chosen lessons, but this time via some other path than through a step-mother.

My friend was given, around her mid-20′s, a possibility to choose from two different futures. In one, she would go through one of her experiences she wanted to go through via a husband and two children, and would end up dying in a car accident because her life was unhappy. The other path was to go through these things alone withing a very short time frame, with no husband or children involved. She choose the second option and my god, I have never seen her so exhausted than she was within the 1,5 years. She said she felt like she went though 10-15 years of life experience and hardships within 18 months, but it was worth it. She’s very happy now, married to someone else and successful in her work. But no children, probably ever. 

I was given an opportunity to choose from two different paths when I was 19. In one of them, I would continue the path I was on. I would marry a nice guy, get a nice home, have some pets and a car and work, but I wouldn’t be really happy. All would be well, no problems or worries, but I would be unhappy and feel empty for a reason I wouldn’t be able to pinpoint out. In the other option, I would abandon everything, jump into nothingness from the path I was on. I would go through lots of hardships alone and educate and mature myself spiritually and emotionally. Nothing would be sure or permanent, but I would be free and happy - and reap rewards of these hardships later in life, around middle-age.  

I choose the later one. I still have no house, car, pets, husband or steady job but I’m happy and my life keeps getting better and more worry free the older I become. Maybe in a parallel universe, I live through the option 1 now. 

(That’s one reason also why I like Vol’jin so much. He had to choose like me, too, and he also chose freedom with hardships)

So, in short, we can affect our lives, we definitely do, but some things are meant to happen as we wanted them to happen. We can ALWAYS choose even within these things - if nothing else, how we take them and what’s our attitude. 

Me: *Sees messages from friends I haven't talked to in forever*

Me: *Cries forever cause I miss them*