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How I found my path to Strength, Patience, Honour, POWER & Loyalty

Inspired by The Matriarch Clothing Line -                            www.thematriarch.ca or insta @thematriarchinyou

I am so lucky to be surrounded around so many amazing women – like minded women who may not share the same fitness goals as I do, but share the same passion for what all of this stands for, women who have taught me myth from fact – aided in my own personal growth, my weight loss, my mental health – some of these women I have never even met, and if it weren’t for social media we would not have connected at all, I wouldn’t have become the person I am today - These women who I have met, followed, creeped – and secretly cheered for in the background are strong, fearless and confident, they are not afraid to be authentically themselves, they thrive in their element (whatever it may be) they lead by example and take risks- They expose their journeys on social media, they allow themselves to be vulnerable and honest even during times when they feel their worst – I admire their strength to be so “real” – 

I received a message this week - it read : 

“how do you change your thought process to self love? Cause I am over here loving your posts and progress..then I read your post today and realized we are the same weight. Why can I love your body so much, yet not see the beauty in myself that I see in you? 

Wow, did that ever hit me, the reality of this is that women are taught to associate their “beauty” by what the number on the scale says- Its pure hell being in your own mind about your body, to be your own worst enemy thinking everyone sees the same flaws you do (when in reality, they don’t) to question the foods we put in our mouths, the exercise we are (or aren’t getting) or the way our jeans fit…However,  I am confident that I have found the secret and its really easy – and I have written about it before but have come to realize even more so now that is in fact your tribe that make all the difference, it is the women of your life - the connections and the relationships – So I am going to go about this in 2 ways because it is as equally important to speak to yourself with the same kindness and patience that you would a friend…and failing to realize that you hold your own perception in your hands is a key factor in all of this self love, self worth stuff that we are struggling so hard to find…

So, FACT:

Such a silly meme that keeps circulating social media, but I actually 1000% agree with- I speak from experience when I say that it is amazing what a new outfit can do for your self esteem, which is why so many women are obsessed with shopping (right!) but honestly taking the time to invest in clothing that you really love, that make you feel good is the perfect way to boost your self esteem – if you are having a difficult day wearing an outfit that you KNOW looks bomb, hugs your curves and is all around flattering to your figure can change your whole ‘tud towards the day, it can literally be the game changer!  

When you can find beauty in yourself you are more likely to have higher self esteem and self worth, it shouldn’t come as a shock when I say that “feeling pretty” can enhance your mood, boost your confidence and even increase your energy level…(not to mention your sex life) Think about it -  when you have a good hair day or make up day, a good outfit day or whatever the good is to you - you walk taller, with more confidence - you hold your head higher and you glow a little differently! Now, imagine feeling like that everyday - because you can! 

There is a list of reasons to hate social media, to not understand it fully or to use it what its purpose but there is also a list of reasons to love what the culture brings – without it we would not be able to connect with these like minded women, real women who are living their best lives all of the world – living in countries I could only imagine living it, there is an unspoken sisterhood of support and non-judgement and I couldn’t imagine where I would be right now if it wasn’t for the support of my unspoken sisterhood. These women have built me up, they’ve provided me with skills I never thought I needed, they have taught me to love myself, my body, my whole presence – they have laughed with me, cried with me – spent time getting to know me and they have stuck by me through thick and thin and all it took was a simple follow… a simple like or a comment on a photo that set the tone for the rest of the day- and yes ladies, it is that simple- It is suggested that being told you look pretty or beautiful on days when you aren’t feeling your best can instantly elevate your mood – when you feel self conscious, you can act differently then you usually do, which can negatively effect your disposition and being kind and supportive doesn’t cost you a thing. 

While there are some out there who judge the selfies, or progress photos or gym “talk” – there are some who have reaped the benefits of using social media for exactly what it is designed to do – we create content, that may feel superficial to some but to those who post it’s a way of life- its support, it’s a unspoken sisterhood, one I personally could not be more proud to be apart of.  

I understand that some days can be a struggle to feel pretty, maybe you had a poor nights rest and woke up to a large zit on your face that surprised you with an unexpected visit but doing small things each day that make you feel pretty can dramatically improve your quality of life!! 

So let’s imagine a world where women could thrive from the second they opened their eyes, a world where we could just roll out of bed -make up free, messy bed head and that pesky pimple and still feel hot as hell - to be able to look in the mirror at any stage of the day and LOVE who is looking back (the whole perfectly flawed morning mess that you are allowed to be) That is a world that I want to raise my child in – where beauty isn’t defined by a number. 

But understand this -everyone’s definition of beauty is different and finding yours is going to take time, it will take self love and compassion, it will take loving every imperfection (that YOU think you have, even that pesky pimple, lol)  but here is the kicker, it’s doable –it’s being in control of how people perceive you – and let me tell you ladies – IT IS empowering – allowing yourself to be so confident in your own skin that even being braless and make up free doesn’t phase you – We should see more of that being posted, liked and shared. We should be celebrating strong BADASS women who are doing their own thing, for their own needs for their own growth and goals and we should all be taking the time out to do the things that make us feel pretty, or beautiful – even if it is just a new kickass gym outfit. 

Sincerely,