#the antis

I'm not one for discourse or drama but I need to say something!

It is NOT wrong for a 19 year old and a 25 year old to be in a relationship AS LONG as they treat each other well and love each other.

Keith and Shiro are FICTIONAL characters and both over 18. So why does my sister, who ships them, get death threats and hateful anon messages? Why do people go around and tell other fans she is a pedophile? Why do people send her FUCKING CHILD PORNOGRAPHY just to trigger her?

They know. They FUCKING KNOW that she is a surviver AND DO SHIT LIKE THIS? How dare they? This. Is. Not. FUCKING. Okay.

Why would a surviver ship this if it was underage oder pedo in any way? Are antis really that fucking stupid?

Are antis to stupid to see the difference between a grown up abusing a child and two adults being in a relationship?

You fucking antis commited a crime! You send an abuse victim CHILD PORNOGRAPHY like where did you even get that from? Are you really sick enough to look something like that up just to upset someone who ships something else than you? You send her death threats and anon hate! What's wrong with you?

You sick assholes need to calm down. Calm down and think about what you did.

You made her cry. You made her feel bad. You made her remember things she never wanted to remember again. Ever. You hurt her just because she ships something you don't like. You hurt her in the worst way possible.

You hurt a real person over some fictional bullshit. Is your life that bad? Do you need to go around and make people feel bad? You pathetic idiots.

You assholes aren't helping anyone, you are NOT doing something good.

You pieces of shit are NOT good people or the only true fans.

No. You are the fucking assholes who go around and ruin the show for everyone else.

 *TLJ trailer comes out explicitly pointing towards kylo being redeemed*

dudebros:

The antis: Pharah has the same proportions and body type as Mercy!!11!!

I said I was going to go out on a walk, but instead I’m gonna contribute to the discourse about That Blog, and That List. I have my priorities in order.

So, TL;DR, I came into the YOI fandom partly as a refuge from my Twitter feed. Part of what made me realize I needed to step back from Twitter was the way that the short communication form tended to boil issues down to all-or-nothing snippets, and the way that righteous fury over a cause--even (and often) a good cause--could create this sense of dark mania and excitement.

Here’s the thing: it felt good to react against the injustices of the world, whether real or perceived. It was exhilarating to be angry and talk about these things, and retweet other voices. It makes you feel like you’re a part of something important, like you have something to contribute to the world. It’s exhilarating to confront an ignorant person on the systemic sexism in video games, or the exclusionary elements of Taylor Swift’s type of feminism, or the way someone’s fave is problematic. It’s a fight, and for a while it feels like a good fight. It very often is. That’s where I think a lot of people in this fandom are coming from, and I see it partially as a function of age and maturity, because I’ve been there. I’ve been on those breathless crusades. But if you do this, it’s very easy to become angry all the time about everything. And being angry all the time doesn’t change the world; it just changes you, and always for the worse.

Rage is a fire. It will burn you up.

There’s something about the sentence your fave is problematic which I think people often forget, and it’s the word fave. It’s the same thing that trips up people who are confronted with their privilege for the very first time. Your fave is problematic, sure; but it’s still allowed to be your fave. The important thing isn’t stamping out all problematic elements forever for absolutely everyone; it’s about recognizing them, sitting with them, understanding how they are intertwined with the good bits of the very same piece of media.  It’s about being aware, the same way you need to be aware of white privilege. In both cases, if you let that part consume you, and if you mistake that discomfort for the real work and start trying to consume and control other people, it will stop you in your tracks and prevent true forward motion.

It’s uncomfortable. But discomfort is part of life. It’s far more interesting to learn to make friends with it than to turn your back and cast it as simply evil or wrong.

You are allowed to enjoy things even if they’re problematic. You’re allowed to enjoy the problematic things, too, as long as you’re aware of them, and other people should be granted the same respect. Policing people isn’t going to bring you joy; it’s just going to keep fueling the rage. Are there times when things should be called out? Yeah, absolutely. But this shit is complicated. It is not easy. It is not easy. It will never be easy.

hello!! i’ve seen a lot of people talking about the antis lately, saying they shouldn’t reblog things from us, and some people were wondering who the antis are, they even wanted to make a post to inform everyone about this. so i thought i should save you the job!! you’re welcome!! :)

FAQ

What is an “anti”?

we are real people in the other side of the computer, not a fictional character. and we are aaron stans! we don’t feel comfortable with robron, everyone of us have their own reasons. some of us are triggered bc of the dynamic of their relationship, some of us just think it’s wrong to romanticize abuse.

But if they don’t ship robron, does that mean they want Aaron to be miserable?

no!!! the opposite!!! we think (and we saw on canon) that aaron is not really happy with robert. even though they have some happy moments, we think aaron would be better without him. we actually do want aaron happy!

Why shouldn’t we reblog from them? Are they really making posts just to upset us?

actually, no. we make posts for ourselves. yes, some posts are to prove some points we talk about. same as some of you did, really! for example, a really close friend of mine who i really love, posted a gifset about how other couples’d had cheating storylines, to prove a point. no one considered that mean. we are just doing the same!!

But… who are these “antis”?

there a lot of us!!! here you have some:

@chrissiebex. if i have something in common with all of you, is that we share our hate for georgii. bc damn, she is so fucking talented!!!!! her gifs are perfect, and i mean perfect! it would be a shame if you couldn’t reblog from her, literally only your loss. she is also so nice and kind to every single person who treats her with respect. actual angel who deserves love and only love!!!!

@softaaron. tree is so funny and so clever!! she is also so so so nice!! she makes some quality posts!! she also helped me when i was struggling. also deserves love and only love!! your loss too if you stop reblogging from her, bc she always gifs the best parts of the episodes! (important note: consider this before sending hate to tree: she is 16 year old. so if you’re an adult and you send her hate, you’re an actual asshole).

@livflahertys. if you ever find a person who you think can be kinder than stacy, please call me, bc i won’t believe you unless i see it with my own eyes (jk, i won’t believe you anyway). like, not only she made a post to help everyone who wanted to learn about photoshop, but after that she spent hours helping me how to actually download it and using it bc i’m just that bad with technollogy. also, gifs!!!! beautiful gifs!!!! just wonderful in general.

@dingleflaherty. talking about perfect gifs and clever posts!! you know, think what you want. when i first talked to guro i was a robron shipper myself and she was kinder than most of the people i have ever talked to in the robron fandom. she is an amazing person, who helped me more than i can really say when i was struggling with my own feelings. i can’t even say how wonderful of a human being she is.

@shadowhuntersgay. god, gabe is so clever and so funny!!! if you are wondering how to apply a meme to aaron, you will always find the answer on his blog. amazing gifs too!!! he never fails to make me smile. another human being too good for this world. (important note: gabe is 17. so again, remember that before your grown up ass sends any hate to him, bc if you do you’re disgusting).

@mirandabarlowe. maddy makes some pretty gifs too!!! she’s always kind and has some incredible opinions about everything. it’s really interesting to read her point of view on things bc she’s really open minded and clever, and it’s always great to read that! another angel who deserves nothing but happiness.

@fallon-din. i don’t know his name and i have never talked to him, but he has some amazing aaron x adam headcanons, and an incredible fic that you can read here, and i thought that deserved a special mention :) also a++++ posts!!!!

But I thought they were all monsters…?

we are not! shocking. we are humans. we make mistakes and sometimes we hurt other people. but we aren’t the monsters that most people seem to think we are.

we aren’t saint eithers. but then again, no one in this fandom is.

we are accused of bullying. yesterday, someone from the robron fandom made a post and they mentioned some of our urls. so… when we do things like that is bullying, but when you do them… is okay? and on the urls they mentioned, it wasn’t mine. so some people told me “that’s because you’re nice”. and that’s true. i try to be nice to everyone. but… all of the people i mentioned before are nice too? they are good people, you know. some of the posts i saw between yesterday and today really hurt me. not because of the posts themselves, but because some of my friends have liked them. and that really, really hurt. and i became really angry about it, and i thought “what’s the point on being nice, if people will always see me as the bad guy just because i’m an anti?”. and i keep getting hate from anons, and people keep making posts about me, and my friends keep liking them. so you know, when you think about it, about how much it hurts, can you really blame any of the antis for becoming “bitter” and “petty”? they have been in this situation for two years. they got hate, so much more hate that i’ve ever gotten, and not only their “friends” liked that kind of posts, there were posts against them that were made by their own “friends”. think about how hurt and agry you would be, after being bullied that much, and think if you wouldn’t have the right to snap after that. because today i almost snapped. but i don’t want to be like that, because that’s not who i am. but yes, i understand other antis being like that. i do think they have the right of being this bitter.