#thatemail

ok so for the next several days I'm going to follow Bowie's advice and nit pick (like a good college student) the contents and offer my own thoughts on his words ( I'm hoping this is more fun than obsessive).  I'll take each statement at a time and really try and give some decent advice.

I wasn’t using you.

What this statement corresponds to: I asked if he was just using me, a rational statement given our current standing, he said no; but deep down I still feel like he was and my reasons are as follows: 1) he broke things off after we had sex 2) he never responded to any of my phone calls 3) he never offers a clear reason on why he left 4) his email is full of detatchment and impersonalities. 

Advice: Even if he wasn't using me, he still hurt me and made me feel like I had been used.  If you have ever experienced this feeling, it is completeley soul shattering.  It renders you worthless and is not a nice feeling.  If you ever feel like you have been used just try to remember that you are a special person, a beautiful person who does not deserve to be treated like that.  Remember that it is a good thing that they did not stick around, because then they would still be there to emotionally take advantage over you, which is something you do not need or want.

How I would have liked to respond to this: Well gee, you could have fooled me.  Tell me something if that wasn't using than what would you call it?  If you knew that you had no feelings what so ever for me and you slept with me anyway then you used me, since I told you how I felt, you took advantage of my emotions and you used me plain and simple.  Do yourself a favor and stop lying to me and yourself.

Advice for a user: If you want a casual hook up, be straight forward.  Say "I just want sex" or "I won't be calling you ever...so do you still wanna fuck?"  If the person you are propositioning still says yes, then it is just a hook up and you can leave totally guilt free.  If however they say "I really want to be with you and I'm kinda in love with you" and you respond "Me too" or "I really want to be with you too" and you don't mean it then shame on you.

Love,