#swirlers

even wmbf pairings are sparse as hell; & that's literally just the genderswap of the same kind of interracial depiction. Black Women do not get portrayed in interracial relationships at all next to how often black men are. really think ab that. the wheels have turned so dramatically in fact, that Black Women have suffered a social demotion so profound at the v hands & passive will of Black men & nb women, that we're looked at as less valuable than black men these days. so we don't get even a slither of representation interracially — & then they get included in more shit than we do full stop. even with every woman in every corner of the world thirsting to emulate us every single day in every single way. that is truly wild. it's like corporations have taken it upon themselves to capitalize off of, maybe not necessarily misogynoir ig, but definitely off of black men both significantly famous (& significantly otherwise) who aggressively establish how opposed they are to being involved romantically w black women; whether anyone asks, is interested or not. we can't overlook white women taking full advantage of this, either, but truthfully they've had a historic streak in dismantling black family structures for just as long as white men so we don't even have to delve into that. slavery, racial fetishism & washing of monoracial black love is the face-value irony ofc (which is why calling this particular interracial corporate fav “progressive” has always sounded contradicting to me).

it will never not be wild to me how straight up uncomfortable/pressed it makes society to see a monoracial black couple genuinely love & be committed to each other; esp a dark skinned pair, Good Lord. that's pretty much ‘least aesthetically pleasing’ in most pop culture industries, lbr. which is why a lot of different brands have also jumped on the dark skinned black men × half black women bandwagon as an easy copout. then what's ironic ab that is the equally controversial fetishism around making biracial children directly related to racist stigmas ab producing children that are dark or brown skinned (speaking of swirlers, whom again are often black men & white women). not to mention those same biracial children being creepily put on social pedestals around colorism, featurism, as well as prejudices around hair texture. add to that how even more divisive antiblackness susceptibily makes biracial groups just to keep up w trends & ideals around fair complexions & particularly curly hair.

it's just odd how interracial couples are hardly ever not black men & white women is what I'm getting at. you don't even see them paired w other races anywhere near as much. like I said, we see Monoracially Black Couples even less — which is even weirder. Bc if any race of ppl deserve controlling the narrative of their own cultural love, it would definitely be Black Folks; and that even included Black Americans and Black people from other cultures within the diaspora. everybody feels like they can better cast & be a romantic partner for a black man with agendas to essentially exclude black women entirely, & that — for the love of God & every Black Woman constantly invalidated & belittled by our own men & nb women indifferently — is not ok at all.

stop half-assing the relevance of other interracial relationships to lowkey perpetuate antiblackness & the fetishism behind bmwf relationships (as well as black men just being paired w any race of women but black women); we see what's going on. At least I do. honestly i don't think it's progressive at all to endorse white ppl in particular being in interracial relationships they fetishise openly af both in spite & bc of historic racial prejudice. like how in God's name are we basically open to eugenic exercise in 2020 & ignorantly appropriating it as the most beneficial thing for the future? Esp for our own communities & Black heritage, the vindictive swirl shit antiBlack black men be on is some truly backwards bullshit. more than that, there is a true abundance of many different races of ppl in this world besides Black men & white women. if film & marketing industries literally only have the energy to portray interracial relationships thru bmwf couples & the children they produce then imo that is just lazy & blatantly misogynoir af. & pretty insinuative as to the kinds of future generations corporate industries as well as brands are adapting to prune & profitably objectify for, you guessed it, being biracial. so yay, rite? .-. nobody that matters loses & nobody that loses matters type shit. i get it. & I see thru the illusions.

even wealthy black women would get the short end of the stick if we epitomized & glorified relationships we vindictively pursued w white or only half black or fair skinned foreign men out of “harmless preferences”. The same “harmless preferences “ we use to backhand black men w perpetuation around them not being good enough, racially ambiguous enough, masculine enough or desirable at large, we would effortlessly be written off & cancelled as racist, colorist, antiblack & self-hating. fucking period.

if we was out here fucking w any demographic of men renown for gaslighting black women as nothing but “black pussy” & only fucking us for the same fetishised reasons, can you imagine? imagine if we was out here vouching for white & nbmoc who we was fully aware regarded us like that? imagine if we was out here letting white & nbmoc have at our wombs on some colorist “hE fInE tHo & iOn wAnT dArK sKinNeD kIdS oR Fw bLaCk mAlEs” type shit. Lmfffffao.

Imagine if we was out here basically reproducing w nb men who only sexualize & objectify antiblack bw to have a stake in producing mixed raced children they forge their way into our culture thru. imagine if you saw antiblack bw on social media at the rate you do bm these days nurturingly posted up w biracial children they have w nb partners as opposed to being as notably engaged w monoracial black children they have from previous relationships w bm.

we'd be a laughing stock just bc we're black women. ppl would clown us & make us out to be women who just wanna be white/socially accepted so badly we're selling our culture & reproducing w anyone but black men to outbreed ourselves; like we're so desperate to be on the totem pole we're not only willfully allowing but participating prevalently in the erasure of Black Culture.

weird af how this is not at all the case for black men. it's like it's becoming more & more common to come across swirler couples, mixed kids & black men who just truly unreasonably slander tf out of black women w no real opposition from anyone fr. no one opens their mouths ab it but other black women. the same black women who are constantly thrown under the bus even when we're out protesting the murders of black men (by non blacks as well as fellow black men).

it's weird how mfs don't & seemingly can't realize how significant a nose dive black culture has taken in tandem w both the destructive whims & misogynistic tendencies of black men. I don't know who or what gave them the green light, but they seem determined that antiblackness thru fetishism is the future — & hasn't instead been all of human history that has abused black culture, black people, & esp black women itfp.

they seem hellbent on appropriating bw as their particular oppressors; the real oppressors all the while & in “sheep's clothing” who've kept them from attainable success, aspects of freedom, real livelihood and qualities of life. It’s the white man principally, but the white woman has unique immunity or can be forgiven as they make self serving excuses for — but somehow it’s become the black woman just as principally as white men. It’s been black women, always notably in some traitorous, neglectful, spiteful, if not an all around flawed and mean-spirited way, being set out to stifle Black men through projections about our mistreatment. Even and especially regarding how they mistreated and defeminize us. It’s us all by ourselves and against them personally and with a bitter passion in every existential breath we take.

we're who's had our foot on their (and “black culture's”) neck for centuries. we're what's stunted & shiftless ab what white people — meaning both white men and white women — have desecrated and portrayed for centuries ab black communities and our diaspora and our households and black voters and black poverty and black parenthood and black femininity and black masculinity and black health and black genes and black traits and black hair and black music and black love and black sex and black children and black education and black business and black ownership and black healthcare disparities and black income disparities and black housing and black neighborhoods and black on black crime and black employment and black marriage rates. right. even our own sexual assault/abuse experiences (disproportionately given a fuck ab next to literally any other race of women in the world) is our fault. With black men as are our #1 assailants in the face of it tho.

& we are your #1 victims for reasons that mirror just as much of their brainwashed hatred for us. for what irony's worth, those aren't statistics that have been falsely hyped like those historically by your jungle-feverish snow bunnies, either. those are facts bc alotta y'all really just do not know how to care or care at all ab treating black women like human beings. the way you can easily do it for nb women w/o thought? that. that is the kind of humanity too many as all as an increasing number of y'all do not have for us. down to even the way y’all perceive little Black Girls. It’s that ugly. This blows my mind. Like the way it makes me so ashamed of modern black men on such an insurmountable degree…..

" I Know my heart will never be the same. But I'm telling myself I'll be Okay".