From "Time’s Up for Me, Too" by Karolyn Gehrig
in Disability Visibility, 2020
[content note: extreme ableism; sexual violence]
When I was three, my adult aunt Virginia came to live with us. What was then her clinical diagnosis is the [R] slur… She is developmentally disabled and intellectually impaired. That slur was enshrined in the names of organizations that helped her while I was growing up and was flung around my schoolyards for cruelty...
Virginia had a series of sexual aggressions in her sheltered workshop. It was always hard to get the story. ...My mother took days off from work and tried to talk her supervisors into separating him from her or the bus drivers into keeping him away from her. It was effective for a little while. Eventually she had to leave.
There is a scene in The Shape of Water where Sally Hawkins is threatened sexually by her boss. It is more harrowing when you remember that the highest rates of sexual assault are for disabled people who cannot communicate their attacks.
At Virginia’s sheltered workshop, she was paid what is known as a “subminimum wage.” It is still legal to pay disabled people for piecework, or pennies for the hour. On average, Virginia’s checks were about $6 a week, $9 on a good one. She was still devastated by having had to leave her job.
In an argument with my mother over Virginia, she said it did not hurt her to see them treat Virginia this way. Virginia’s subminimum wage, the hours taken away from my mother’s own job, her own interests, her own life, also did not affect her. She did not understand why it impacts me as another disabled woman. Virginia and I are different. I try to explain that...we deserve equal rights. She disagrees: I deserve a fair wage. Virginia does not.
This is where I understand that if we are in The Shape of Water (which we are not and never would be), Virginia is always the one behind glass, prodded, unable to be heard. In our story, she always bears more risk.
This is also where I understand that what I least liked about the movie was its undeniable truth: that even when allied against a common enemy, we are considered separate. We are left in the water.