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someone explain softness to me, like how can someone have a soft aesthetic in real life i NEED TO KNOW and i envy people who figure out their aesthetic like carol from studylustre, kitty from educatier and loracarol from maybestudy uGHHH IM SO JEALOUS

june 9, 2017

i said i won’t be journaling for a while but i missed it so i made a spread for june lol

Hi there! My name is Kaitlin and I’m in a sorority!

I don’t see many (if any at all) posts in the studyblr community about greek life and i wanted to change that by making a post about it!

Disclaimer: I’m talking about sororities in the US, I’m not sure if greek life is a thing outside of the US but this is what I know from my experience!

What is a sorority?

a sorority is a group of women that all share the same values, who participate in charity work, sisterhood events, and other rituals. When you are in college, sorority girls are called ‘collegiate members’ and when you graduate, you become an alumnae.

What do you do in a sorority?

There are so many things you do in a sorority! After you rush and join a sorority, you bond with your sisters at weekly formal meetings, sisterhood events, dances, formals, charity events (on and off campus) and many more!

Some of the things I’ve done in my sorority are lip synching contests (for our charity), whale watching trips, retreats to the mountains, and themed dances with other sororities and fraternities!

Can I be in a sorority and still have good grades?

Absolutely!! I got a 4.0 while participating fully in sorority life! Sometimes it isn’t easy (greek life is a significant time commitment) but my sorority has facebook groups just for girls in different majors and we are required to have a certain amount of study hours to be able to participate in activities as well as being eligible to attend formal at the end of the semester!

My sorority (as well as many others!) reward their members’s good grades in different ways! For every A we get on a paper/exam, we are entered in a drawing for gift cards at our scholarship banquet, as well as weekly “smarty pants” awards and special recognition at events! You can even get a scholarship pearl to show everyone how your hard work payed off!

We also had study sessions where our sorority reserved a room or two in the library near finals to group study!

Why should I join a sorority?

Sororities are not only about sisterhood, but they also get you involved in your school and community and are incredible for networking!

There are many executive positions you can take in your sorority that look great on resumes (for example, if you’re an accounting major, you could be a financial vice president or if you want to pursue event planning you could be social charwoman or public relations vice president!)

When you join, you immediately gain anywhere from 60-200 new friends/sisters! Rushing as a freshman, it felt really relieving seeing girls I knew around campus and in my classes that I know share the same values as me!

What is hazing? Will it happen to me?

Greek life is cracking down very hard on hazing, so you should not worry about it. Hazing is when members of an organization make uninitiated/unofficial members feel degraded, embarassed, less than, or uncomfortable at any point in order to be allowed into their group. An extreme example of this would be forcing people to drink excessive amounts of alcohol. A mild (but still fully punishable) example would be prohibiting new (uninitiated/unofficial) members from wearing apparel/accessories that have their sorority’s greek letters on them before being initiated

Greek organizations can be put on probation, be banned from recruiting,  or even have their charter pulled (meaning they no longer exist on that campus) for hazing.

What kind of commitment does a sorority require?

greek life requires a significant (but not overwhelming) time and financial commitment

your first year (while you are a “new member”) is when you pay the most “dues” due to new member fees, but I have many girls in my sorority that pay for their entire sorority dues and fees on their own. Many sororities have payment plans for girls that need them. There are also scholarships specifically for sorority girls to help out! Each sorority has different amounts for dues.

Sorority life also requires a good amount of time. There are events that you are required to go to, and a lot of sororities go by a point system for activity. If you don’t make a certain amount of points, you could be barred from going to other events such as the big formal at the end of the year or be ineligible to do certain things like taking a little sister or participating in recruitment. I have had sisters, however, that work 4 days a week and graduate with 2 degrees and still make it to events and are present in the community

In my sorority, school is always an excuse to get out of an event (say, if you had an evening class and couldn’t make it to a sisterhood; not if you can’t make it to the weekly formal meeting because you have a test the next day and put off studying til the last second).

Sorority life isn’t for me, I’m not very girly/outgoing/extroverted/social.

Hey friend, did you know that not every sorority is like they are in the movies? Yes, some are more preppy than others, but there are groups of girls for just about everyone! Every sorority has their own type of girl in it and are all slightly different from one another! I have a twin sister who I thought wouldn’t want to join greek life because she isn’t super girly or very popular, but she went through recruitment and found the perfect girls for her that are just as sweet and funny and academically minded as she is! They might not be the most popular house or the sisterhood that has the best parties or the most gorgeous house, but they were absolutely perfect for her!

Every sorority is different from campus to campus. One sorority we have on my campus has almost completely different girls than the chapter from the state college next door!

I’m trans/I identify as a girl, can I still rush?

from the Lambda 10 Project’s fraternity & sorority Trans guide:

research the fraternity/sorority you are interested in. fraternities and sororities are more than just a party hook-up; they are guiding principles and ideals that are paramount to being a part of the organization. find an organization that fits with your morals and ideals/ research organizations that are gay friendly. these groups are generally more accepting to trans applicants. you may want to start your search here

get to know the current members of the organizations you are interested in. these members can give you more information and will most likely let you know if their chapter is trans-friendly

if invited to join or begin the membership intake process, remember that you are no different than any other person in your position. if you feel uncomfortable in any way, let a member of the organization know

I’m still on the fence about joining. What should I do?

Well, there are lots of things you can do! I personally recommend going to your university’s recruitment/rush orientation! There are girls from all of the different sororities that disaffiliate (don’t wear their letters, don’t tell the girls which sorority she’s in, etc) and act as counselors for the girls that are interested in joining a sorority! They answer a lot of common questions and also talk about recruitment/rush!

please feel free to ask/message me about any questions you might have about sorority life, recruitment, life as a new member, or anything else related to greek life! I am incredibly in love with my sorority and greek life and would be more than happy to help!

hello!! my name is angela and i’m a new studyblr! :^)

here’s a few things About Me: 

i’m 17, turning 18 in october 7, my zodiac sign is libra

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i’m currently a high school senior and i’m taking the abm strand

i plan to take either business management or psychology in college

idk what’s gotten into me lately but i’m starting to like statistics! i hate math though

i listen to kpop songs but only fully stan bts, so if you like them too then pls hit me up! namjoon is my bias!

kdramas, tv shows and youtube videos are my stress relievers well add bts

one of my goal this year is to learn how to use photoshop 

i’m a sucker for pastel colors

i like to cheer people up and send them positive messages

i have like 300+ memes in my camera roll. insane right? 

i decided to create this blog because i want to be more motivated in my studies and improve my studying habits. i’m also looking forward to making new friends in this community. hope to get closer with some of you!!