i keep seeing lesbian trans man discourse and like, call yourself whatever you want, but i can't deny that this being seen as an acceptable default label for trans men has made my experience in queer spaces actively worse. does it really not feel transphobic to other guys? if you try to set me up with a lesbian without like five million caveats about her also using the label nontraditionally and telling me she would date a cis straight man, i am going to assume you see me as a woman. i seriously wish this was just an internet language argument and not something i have had to deal with irl multiple times