#steriotype

My physics professor was describing how the temperature of different states and countries is affected by how much water is around that location.

if a girl has a short haircut that doesn't mean she's a lesbian.

If the girl's hair is blue it doesn't mean that she is a lesbian.

if a girl loves black clothes it doesn't mean that she is a lesbian.

“What is the worst steriotype ever? mine is: girls are weak. it makes me so mad!!! for one ting i'm not gonna be all"OH NO CALL THE POLICE I BROKE A NAIL" i think thats creepy when people are like that...“

“Is black nail polish considered bad? what if you painted a flower or something on it. i'm just wondering because i like the look and my mom says its fine but i don't want to look goth.”

What is Homosociality?

Homosociality refers specifically to the nonsexual attractions held by men (or women) for members of their own sex (Lipman-Blumen1976).  

In this research it shows how men who belongs to the Hegemonic Masculinity groups survives in between then and how that group functions. The first thing that those group take into look is the emotions, the second thing is competition in between the homosocial groups and the third thing is the sexual objectification of women.

This is what it means by emotions:

“The topics of sports, women, business, politics, and drinking were most commonly specified as desirable for conversation, while the topics of feelings and gossip were most frequently mentioned as undesirable.” Which is saying that what is considered to be a man’s topic is talking about girls, work and hanging out drinking and topics that are considered to be for women are gossips and talking about their feelings. Sometimes I been in some places where I hear men telling other man who are gossiping about something “Oh you sound like a girls gossiping just stop” which is not an acceptable thing in the homosocial groups of men.

“Rarely does anyone (other than the social scientist) seriously question the expectations associated with gender identity or gender norms. instead , it is assumed that “boys will be boys” and will just naturally do “boy things.” By the same token, “men will be men” and will continue to do “men things.” Most of the people believe that been either a female or a male is  just the natural and that each of those individuals should know what their roles are, they are not aware or do not want to realize that is just a social construction.

Since you are little people imposed you to do certain things because of your gender (sex), “When you’re a little boy, you hang out with other little boys and you do little boy things” This reminds of the back times when I was little and I always use to hear that girls are supposed to play with girls and boys are supposed to play with boys. Most of the time people didn't wanted to see girls playing with boys because then boys were gonna get use to do girls things and the same way around with girls. Also they considered that boys were too aggressive to be playing with girls.

Then it comes back to how is seen if a man talks about their emotions “What these men explained was that within the male homosocial group, emotional detachment is viewed not only as desirable but as imperative. Those who do express their intimate emotions are excluded” The reason why they get taken out of the group is because those are woman stuff and that does not belongs to male homosocial group and that was considered to be a violation of the norm of emotional detachment because is considered to be as “not what ‘real’ men are supposed to be”.

Why there is competition between man?

“Among the forms of competitions in which men engage are those that involve the objectification of women. Men often compete with one another in efforts to gain the attention and affections of women and in boasting about their sexual exploits.” Which means that they try to compete in order to get to have that women that they all want so badly but besides wanting then there is the fact that they will use those women as a sexual object. “In male homosocial conversations, reference were made to woman as “them,” as clearly “other,” as the non threatening “girls,” and/or as objects to be used for sexual pleasure.” They do not talk about women as if they were respecting them or even as if they had names, they just talk in a way that seems to be like women are nothing more than just a sexual object that they can use whenever they want if they win the competition between all of the men. “The men interviewed explained that men in homosocial groups both objectify and compete for women.”

This following quote is something to take into look in order to start having changes in this world, a place where you don’t have the freedom to get to express yourself because you are too scared to tell people how you are but that will just continue to let society to construct things in the way that they all want and imposed things to be that way and not other way.