#spring kallah

Cushiest Complaints Desk, aka the loves of my life

So that's it Your final Kallah Your last song session Last program Last friendship circle The necklace around your neck has stopped growing That heavy box of candles is empty You're moving to the next phase of your life To college or gap years To new friends and new memories But the joy that NFTY brought to your life will never fade away You'll have life long friends by your side And memories that you will hold close forever Your candles will be passed from generation to generation Continuing your legacy And the beads around your neck become cherished jewels Constantly reminding you of your NFTY years You'll keep walking around the circle The lessons from programs guiding you The melodies from songs playing in your mind This may be your last Kallah But it's not the end You will always live and die N-F-T-Y

That was the theme of this years NFTY-GER's Spring Kallah 2012, which took place this weekend.  It was a weekend filled with love, laughter, and of course tears.  It started Friday afternoon.  4:10pm I left my house to get to my temple on time.  It was incredibly chilly out but we all huddled like penguins and laughed and hugged and tried to avoid talking about how in about 48 hours the seniors would have completed their last NFTY event.

The bus surprisingly came on time, and soon all 12 people at my bus stop had loaded our luggage and got settled with our friends.  Being bus captain for my stop, I took attendance, and then we were off, to URJ Kutz Camp.  The biggest thing that came as a shock to me is that our bus wasn't the last one (The Morristown Bus is known as being the latest bus).  We had time to go to our bunks and unpack/freshen up for dinner and the evening.  When dinner rolled around, one of the buses was still missing, but we started dinner anyway to keep on schedule.

The dining hall was loud.  It always is.  We're catching up with friends that we haven't seen in what seems like forever, trying to relay everything possible about our lives.  The missing bus showed up eventually, and after a noisy dinner filled with hugs we moved on to a crazy song session, wonderful friday night service, a fantabulous mixer and the first Tochnit (program).  Now, I was a group leader for everything, being a member of Board Elect.  I thoroughly enjoyed the programming... except for Tochnit 1.  I felt like it was an incredibly well written program, but the participants (at least in my group) were disrespectful, and many of them didn't even show up to it, choosing to switch groups to be with friends.

After Tochnit 1 we had snack and then I stayed behind for an old board/new board meeting.  It was weird, staying out of the bunks past the curfew, but I'm sure I'll get used to it.  I then returned to my bunk, chilled with my friends, and ate some chocolate before curling up in bed and falling asleep while listening to HaZamir music.

Saturday morning I woke to the sounds of the girls in the room next door talking, and got out of bed to complain.  I ended up sitting in their room for a while talking to them, before getting ready for the day.  I headed to breakfast, grabbed a bite to eat, and then went to services.  The services were beautiful (as they always are) and I got to go up with New Board for an aliyah.

Following services we moved on to Torah Study, which went swimmingly.  I lead my group with a senior named Ashely, who I've known of my entire NFTY Career.  She and I had grown closer over the course of this year, and I loved group leading with her (I also loved every single person in my group).  I felt like the conversation flowed naturally and it was a great idea on Jon's behalf to split it up into separate gender groups.Then there was lunch, in which I think I had maybe... 10 bites of food in total.  I kept getting dragged away by people for candles, which was nice, especially since there were some that I wasn't expecting at all.  Like the one given to me by Jon.  It's incredible and beautiful and I think it may be my favorite candle that I ever got and getting it from him made me feel so happy because even though I knew him it wasn't as if I knew him well and I feel like this weekend we got closer then we ever were before.  And there was one from Chris, the curly hair candle.  I've known Chris to some extent since I was in 8th grade and I don't think we ever had a full conversation until this Kallah and again, it just made me feel really happy to know that he had noticed me during my time in NFTY (and HaZamir).

After lunch and song session we did ASEFAH (which to anyone not in NFTY is a general board meeting... I think) in which I cried during the board reports (like, straight out sobbing, especially when Jared, my predecessor, gave his report) and my TYG added something to an amendment.  Then there was free time in which I didn't have much time being free because I had a ton of things to do (which included a program meeting, running to my bunk for two seconds, getting candles, running the free time activity, and awkwardly loosing my phone only to find it in my coat pocket later that night).

Following my not-so-free free time, we had the last Tochnit of the weekend.  I read it with this guy Ish.  Ish's is pretty cool and a ton of people like his hair, and I had never really talked to him until that activity.  Leading the program (which was split up by grade) with him was an amazing experience and it made me feel as if I truly could be a leader next year.  I was leading people my own age.  People who were my friends.  And they were listening to me (and Ish).  The program went smoothly, and soon we were all going to eat dinner (which is probably the only full meal I ate this entire weekend... I don't like Kutz food).

After dinner we had about 10 minutes to grab what we needed for the evening.  We then lined up for Havdallah and spiraled our way in.  Sitting in the spiral, hearing the old board talk about their time in NFTY and feeling the power and realizing what I had been trying to ignore all weekend, that all of my senior friends were at their final NFTY event, made me break down in tears.  At one point I was crying so hard that my friend Adam took his hand out of mine and put his arm around me and I sobbed into his shoulder.  After havdallah ended everyone was shuffling around crying and hugging each other and every time I stopped crying for a minute I'd start crying again.

Once all of the crying and tears died down, we moved into board installations.  Firstly, may I say that I'm incredibly happy that our regional advisor, Pam, changed the way we do installations (I had a nightmare of my hair being scorched off).  Secondly, I love everyone on both Old board and New board.  Third, Jared Plaxe.  He's been inspiring me since before I knew him.  Since last year when he was a chair member.  And then when he got elected.  I just loved how confident he was/is.  I'm so glad we became friends and that I get to follow his steps and be the next Central Recruitment Vice President.  I also love that he passed down his fannypack to me.  Long story short, he and another board member named Shaina bought matching fannypacks the beginning of the year and EVERYONE in our region was jealous of them because they play your iPod.  So during installation he gave me the Central Recruitment candle and the map, and then he reached around his waist and unhooked the fannypack, and you could hear a collective gasp go up from the region.  And now I'm the owner of the fannypack and it's just... weird... and nice... and everytime I've thought of it and how big of an impact Jared's had on my life the past two years since I learned who he was I start crying (my eyes are watering now)

So after installation we had a little dance party because everyone was still kind of teary eyed and we needed some freeish time.  After the hour long dance party we moved into senior circle.  I was sitting with my friend Shai, who I've known since he started NFTY last year, and a new girl, Lyndsay, who I became friends with almost instantly.  I watched as the seniors walked around the circle, taking two minutes to sum about between one and four years of their lives.  One of the things that stuck out is my friend Shai (a different shai, there are two) said something along the lines of "NFTY didn't change where I was going to go to school, or what my major would be.  It did change how I perceive a smile and what a friend is to me."  NFTY has changed everyone in different ways, and this event, every event, and the participants who attend that, are proof.

This morning I woke up late after forgetting to set my alarm.  I took a quick shower, packed up the rest of my things, and went to the dining hall.  I scarfed down two muffins and then spent breakfast running around, doing Girl Board stuff and helping run the store since they needed help and writing GERams and shout-outs and delivering GERams.  Before I knew it breakfast had ended and it was time to go to the Beit Am to read shout-outs and do friendship circle.  shout-outs seemed to take longer than they typically do, and then once we had cleaned them up, everyone moved into a circular formation.

I sat with New Board, lying on Jenna, and then lying on Justin.  I watched the seniors cry and I threw a pack of tissues at Sydney because I couldn't stand to see more crying (good thing is that it made her laugh).  I watched as traditions were passed from one generation to the next, L'dor V'dor.  I watched as Lev and Jonah became the new shoe stackers, as Sagerman took his place as President and I watched as Justin and Alyssa took their place as the 'planes'.  And then it was time for the cheer.  At first New Board was standing there awkwardly, but then a few of us ventured into the middle.  Jon was skipping past me and grabbed my arm and we skipped together for a while as the cheer started, but then I left him and found my own place and my own rhythm in the circle.

And then that's it.  The Kallah was over.  We got our things and the people who's buses were there loaded them onto their buses and we all hugged goodbye and we cried and said we loved each other and it was a mosh pit of luggage and bodies and tears.  The two buses that were there pulled out and the event was over... except for the fact one bus... my bus... was about 30 to 45 minutes late so we all dwindled among ourselves and talked and were all sad but happy at the same time.

The bus came.  We loaded up.  We were quiet the majority of the way back, many people sleeping.  I got to my bus stop.  We left.  And then I spent the rest of the day at home going back and forth between crying and trying to type this out (it's been an ongoing process since about 3:30 in the afternoon).

NFTY is my heart.  It's my soul.  It's in my breath and my skin.  This weekend showed me that I'm ready to be a leader for my region.  It showed me how many good friends I have.  When I look back on this weekend it won't be measured by how many candles I got or how many tissues I used or how many tears I shed or how many GERams I got.  It will be measured by the friendships I made.  It will be measured by the friendships that I will keep for a lifetime and it will be measured by the hugs and smiles that were exchanged.  This event gave me the push I needed to show me that I truly am a leader, just like Jon and me skipping in friendship circle during the cheer.  I needed that little extra boost of confidence to get going, but I was able to find my own ground after a while, and he was able to let go and let me, and underclassmen, step up to be a leader.  But even though the seniors may have had to stop to let us underclassmen find our place, they will never be forgotten and they will always be connected to NFTY.  Through their candles, their shoes, the way they have impacted us and shaped our lives.

Never Forget These Years NFTY, because I know I won't.

(PS - I'm crying now... again.)

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