#spoonfull

At the end of this month, I am finally going to leave the US to be with my boyfriend. Working is not for me. Being a paralegal was fun. Law school was fun. But I’m just no longer interested in that dream for myself. I want to be free. Get money the way I want to, or not. Get into e-commerce and YouTube. My boyfriend could care less whether I work or not, and he’ll be here in about a week to come get me! So at the end of the month, we are going to Trinidad for 3 months to visit his parents and vacation, and then home to London. I’ve blown through most of my savings, as I completely stopped sugaring about 7 months ago. I’ll have to get back in the bowl just for a little bit, but I’m sure the UK gents are much nicer and *cough* wealthier than here in the states. I will keep you all updated on my travels 💗

Many SDs do not want you to be financially independent. They want you to need them. They won’t fund our business ventures, teach us to trade, or how to follow their business models because they want us to keep coming back for more. In my opinion, if he truly cares about your wellbeing, he would gladly help you create another income stream for yourself.

I give away so much money to family, friends, and businesses of color. Because of this, money always comes back to me at double or even triple what I spent.

So i pretty much have slowed down with my sugaring, like down to only seeing my sd. My bf is about to propose, and he’s asked me to pick out my own ring. So I’m just in a different mindset really. I’m preparing to be the best wife, and version of myself that I can be.

These bitches will get on here talking about “my SD does this” and “my SD does that for me” like FOH. In all honesty, sugaring is not a universal experience. Every sugar experience is different. These are unique interactions between unique individuals. It’s not right to belittle other girls because their experience isn’t the same as yours. The things that benefit one woman might not be good for another.