Donāt say you love me - you just crave for my validation, not my heart
You donāt want love in your life, you are not even able to feel such thing. I am speaking seriously. And you are making a terrible mistake. You are mistaking two completely different concepts. Ā I know you claim you crave for love. But that doesn't mean you actually crave for love. Because what you really crave for is called āvalidationā.Ā Deep down, you are insecure - don't worry, we all are insecure - and your peers, your friends, your family all make you feel worthless if you donāt have a significant other. Itās that horrible social pressure that you cannot run away from. You donāt want a partner, you just need someone to please everyone else - other than you. You need to prove something to your social circle. You want to feel validated by them. And, we all know, single people struggle to get validation - and, usually, they fail miserably. A significant other is a ticket to validation. Ā You crave to hear someone - anyone - telling to you: "I love you". But you don't want to be loved and your heart of an accountant cannot produce love. All you want is to feel that you are not that repulsive. All you want is too tell everybody that there is someone who validates the fact that you are not repulsive. When he/she says "I love you", you automatically feel validated as a human being - even if every single word in this sentence is a lie and he/she is just searching for the same level of validation as you. You both don't want to be labelled as worthless and repulsive and, being so, you mention love and get your faux (and deeply satisfying) validation. Ā You don't want neither love, nor a relationship. You want validation and you call it āloveā, ārelationshipā and, sometimes, even āmarriageā - most likely, with kids being produced. But, to be painfully honest, this is all a big lie. A big social lie. Ā Love is for poets and poets alone. And you are not a poet. Ā Yours, Ā Fabien Euskadi Ā Ā #Relationship footnotesĀ #17
