#sharkboyrambles

Afab means assigned female at birth so this includes/can include cis women, trans men, transmasc people, nonbinary people, and intersex people.

If you’re making a fic where the reader is a woman, uses she/her, wears feminine clothing, etc. tag it as fem reader instead.

I’ve been smacked in the face as a trans man by reading fics tagged afab thinking it will be gender neutral, but the reader is actually a woman and I’m disappointed because I was ready for a fic I thought would apply to me.

Me: Hey, (non disclosed social media), this person has started to leave really mean comments on my posts. Can you do something about it?

Social media: Mmm, no it doesn’t seem like this violates any guidelines

Me: Hey, (non disclosed social media), this person is now leaving very hateful comments and has been harassing me for a few days, can you do something about it?

Social media: No, they’re not doing anything wrong at all, have you tried blocking them?

Me: Hey, (non disclosed social media), this person is now sending me and my mutuals death threats and hate crime threats, which is clearly hate speech against lgbt people, can you PLEASE do something about it?

Social media: Mmm, fine I GUESS this violates our guidelines

Me: Hey, (non disclosed social media), taking down these comments did absolutely nothing, they’re still harassing me and sending threats along with making hateful posts about me wishing harm and sending people after me, along with stalking my other accounts on different platforms, can you please do something about this?

Social media: Okay, this definitely violates our guidelines, we’ll take the comments and posts down

Me: Hey, (non disclosed social media), this didn’t do anything and they’re still harassing me, can you ban them? They’ve had multiple violations in a row

Social media: No, there doesn’t seem to be any violations here. Can’t ban them.

Me:… okay, well I’m going to make a post bringing awareness to this where I will, very justifiably, be just a tiny bit less than nice about it

Fuck people who deny our problems, fuck people who belittle us for speaking out, fuck people who try to make our problems about others, fuck people who hate us because a trans guy was mean to them once, fuck people who tell us to separate our manhood and masculinity from our trans identity, fuck people who tell us what we can and can’t do, fuck people who tell us what we do and don’t experience, fuck people who assume we hate other people in the community for speaking up, fuck people who act like invisibility and erasure is a privilege, fuck the people who ignore our murders and hate crimes, fuck the people act like forced detransition isn’t “that bad”, fuck “allies” that blame the rest of the community’s issues on trans men, fuck people who tell us it’s our fault terfs invade our spaces, fuck people that don’t care about transphobia when it’s aimed at us. Fuck transphobes.

I’m a trans man and I’m angry. I should be allowed to be angry about this.

Like to would be great if we talked about transfem problems without randomly throwing in “yeah because transmascs have it so easy!”

It would be great if we could talk about the issues that come with being a certain sexuality without complaining about lesbians, or bisexuals, or gay men, or polyamorous people and how we think everything is about them (newsflash: its not and they have their own issues because being any type of queer is hard)

It would be great if we could let other lgbt people have representation and be happy for them, instead of turning it into complaining about how others don’t have as much representation. You know you can talk about wlw shows getting cancelled without making mlms feel bad for getting another season of heartstopper right? It’s not their fault and it’s good that they’re getting rep.

I am the “real trans person” that you people claim you are defending, but I really just want you to shut up.

When it comes down to it I will be discriminated against the same as a feminine trans man, masculine trans woman, anyone on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum no matter their identity, someone who uses neopronouns or xenogenders, etc.