The thing that you think the most is the one you less care about, and the thing that you care the most is the least you think about before thinking the same.
Point is we love to compare ourselves intentionally or unintentionally. People say, it builds competence after all there is a market outside waiting for you to pour in your genius thought nuggets that are going to surpass the competition to being claimed something unique.
Well, I believe the word 'unique' is a distortion in itself but yeah we can leave discussing about this in the moment!
Simply speaking , think out of the box, stand out from the crowd are some of the usual terms we have all come across. It's weird how we are first thrown in the oven together to get ourselves cooked and then we are asked to bring out something different out of ourselves.
Coming straight to the point, while comparison can be factor of motivation to do better , I think somewhere we are all going the wrong tunnel. See think by logic, irrespective of schools and colleges exams, if we consider life as the subject we all are different human beings having different priorities determined by our dreams and circumstances.
Hence, our start and finishing point can never be the same!!! . Why do we fail to realise this?
When we are comparing ourself with someone else, we are ultimately negotiating our thought process to start the chase from the same line as it is for another competing prospect. While doing so, what we lose the most that we don't realize is our own voice!!!!!!
By voice, I mean that's what we think of achieving in life. What 's the point of being competent if we get to live someone else's dream and the saddest part of the story, we don't even realize it in the moment and time passes in a flick.
While I do understand some situation or the other must have forced you to run the same, but it's not hard core written, you need to walk in the same path till you die. Ofcourse our fears and anxiety comes in as we grow , but it's important to realise, just as time changes for the worst, it's also changes for the better.
Our times changes, so should our actions be!!!!!!
Our priorities, our situations, our strengths and weaknesses, our individual perspective complements us as a person to achieve a sense a something that is value to us. This is what we tend to forget the most while running in the race which is losing our own value in the fake noise of other's success.
We can certainly hold that time to come out of the route and create our track the way we want it to be!
Bringing ego , insecurity, and sense of achievement in the wrong place can cost us a life of regret and repentance that we can never sell off!
Hence, comparing oneself with others is the most dumb thing that one can do, rather competing oneself with your own previous self would create the difference and map the growth along the process.