#self-cherishing

All negative actions are motivated by delusions, which in turn arise from self-cherishing. First we develop the thought, “I am important,” and because of this we feel that the fulfillment of our wishes is of paramount importance... Then we desire for ourself that which appears attractive and develop attachment, we feel aversion for that which appears unattractive and develop anger, and we feel indifference toward that which appears neutral and develop ignorance… From these delusions all other delusions arise...

All the violence, fear and suffering that exists in this world comes from grasping at "self"(the notion of self). What use is this great monster to you? If you do not let go of the “self"   there will never be an end to your suffering…

The stopping practice

Selfie Culture

Learning to like yourself

If our wishes are not fulfilled and we begin to feel unhappy, we should immediately remember that the fault does not lie with the other person or the situation but with our own self-cherishing mind, which instinctively feels, "My wishes are supremely important." Remaining continually mindful of the dangers of our self-cherishing will strengthen our resolve to abandon it, and instead of feeling sorry for ourself when we have problems, we can use our own suffering to remind us of the suffering of countless mother beings and develop love and compassion for them.

We should not be in a hurry to see results but instead practice patiently and sincerely. Expecting quick results is itself based on self-cherishing and is a recipe for disappointment. If we practice with joy and steadfastness, while at the same time purifying negativity, accumulating merit, and receiving blessings, we will definitely succeed in reducing and finally abandoning our self-cherishing.