#self sooth

The little things, you know?

Therapy looks. My hair was so nice today, so soft. I left group feeling SO SAD today, I'm not sure why, I hope I'm not sponging up other members emotions again. I was given the advice to try more self soothing skills, which is hard for me. Group is quite uncomfortable in general at the moment.

And here I thought I had to be a stoic and just bear the stress of it until I collapsed and maybe it would get better somehow. Smh

Compassion and care? Prioritizing would put climate crisis and nuclear threat at the top of the list. Not for the trinket jinglers. For them, it’s the anti-abortion fight, compassion for the torture of Christ and generosity for fellow cult members. They’re doing what psychologist Otto Rank called “partializing,” making their little something everything. It’s telling that the right choose to call being anti-abortion being pro-life as though protecting fertilized eggs is all it takes to protect life. That’s the point. Armed with their mighty trinket charm bracelet, they never have to think beyond their trivial causes. They use their trinkets to pivot debate. You bring up a priority and they shake their wrists at you at you saying “yeah, but what about this?!” pointing to one of their misplaced token priorities. Trinketing is a form of threat displacement: Rather than facing a formidable threat, you dissociate and self-sooth by obsessing about some more manageable threat. Rather than facing your own complicity, you project it on to others. They’re the real criminals. Lock. Them. Up!

I need to start working on building up more healthy coping habits. So I'm making a list like I used to have of self soothing and fun things to do. If you guys have any suggestions please message me with them. I want to make a really long list I can hang up on my wall.