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imindhowwelayinjune replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

depends on the friends and the context, but yes definitely. sometimes it's only with people i trust and have known for ages (i have very close friends i never talk about it with too, it just depends) and sometimes, in the right group, it just happens even if we're not super close and it becomes a random, often hilarious, sometimes powerful point of connection. for sure not universal, for sure contextual, but definitely a thing that i experience. (also when i say 'yes definitely' i didn't mean 'i can conclusively state it's normal for all allosexual women'! just 'yes definitely that's a thing i do.' i also would say that not all the friends i talk explicitly about sex with are allosexual. ideally i try to follow the lead of whoever i'm with in terms of how explicit talk gets so as not to inadvertently make anyone uncomfortable, but i've definitely fucked that up before.)

thebyrchentwigges replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

We do? A third of the time it's budget sex therapy/venting, a third of the time it's recommendations (books, toys, fandom hotness), and a third of the time it gets awkward/doesn't take off. As the Sex Positive Friend I may be in line for more of these conversations than others.

Okay, this is interesting to know. Like, the close friend who does sometimes talk about sex to me doesn’t really get explicit and only brings it up as it relates to other topics we were already talking about, but I didn’t know if that was just because it was me? I mean that’s been the case since long before I identified as ace but.

I struggle with knowing who would be receptive to that kind of discussion, mostly because part of my ace-ness is that I feel the intense need to distance myself from sex in other people’s perception? Like, I do pretty much everything in my power to prevent people from seeing me as a sexual being because it makes me so uncomfortable, so the notion of talking to even close friends about actual sex with actual people (vs. like, talking about sexy fic or whatever, which doesn’t bother me a whit) is pretty alien to me.

nicxan replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

I'm on the asexual spectrum but I have spoken about my sex life with only my closest friend. Idk how people just do it with anyone. And I don't mean that in a judgmental way it's just ..... how

laisai replied to your post  “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

a lot of chinese americans (like me) don't. it might be a cultural thing, but it's just...only white girls have talked to me about their sex lives. im fine with talking about it, sort of, but im really unused to it so it's uncomfortable to a degree even though i know i'm not ace

I feel these two answers on a visceral level. It’s like, any time I even try to talk about anything VAGUELY sexual that’s not at a great remove from myself, the words literally freeze up in my throat. Like I can’t even talk. It’s not like a trauma response or anything, it doesn’t matter whether I’m trying to talk about good stuff or bad, it’s just so deeply uncomfortable.

Interesting to know that it may be cultural! ETA: For some folks. Obviously I am a white girl and it is not cultural for me, just A Thing I Experience.

roadgoeson replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

... I'm having flashbacks to being stuck in rooms full of straight allosexual friends and being unable to politely escape the graphic sex talk. I guess it's probably common enough?                  

crocordile replied to your post “AU proposition: Finrod beats the werewolf and lives. That's it....”

I'm sure Finrod Beren and Lúthien get to have at least one or two wonderfully ot3esque shippy scenes before his death in angband tho...? pleading eyes

beren sandwich plsss

idk why you’d save a Finrod from a werewolf dungeon and not have a threesome with him, that’d be ridiculous. 

simaethae replied to your post “AU proposition: Finrod beats the werewolf and lives. That's it....”

"Probably everyone dies some other dumb way though" did you mean: Turin

....yes. Yes I did. Maybe in this AU he dams the Narog or something. 

simaethae replied to your post “AU Thingol lives how do the murder bros go about regaining the...”

Dear Thingol, hope you're well. The weather here is terrible but I have killed a large number of orcs. My brothers send their [unintelligible, scribbled out several times]. Please give us the Silmaril. Yours sincerely, Maedhros Feanorion

It is uncanny, how did you get this out of my WIP folder the ruins of sunken Beleriand? 

imindhowwelayinjune replied to your post “AU proposition: Finrod beats the werewolf and lives. That's it....”

Honestly I am here for this even if none of it goes beyond the first sentence of the first bullet point

You just want C+C to be sad and incestuous in some woods somewhere, I know you. 

roadgoeson replied to your post “simaethae replied to your post “OKAY. AU where the noldor never go to...”

mad mags?

edgeoflight replied to your post “simaethae replied to your post “OKAY. AU where the noldor never go to...”

Okay I need a Mad Max AU right now. Clearly Emeldir is Furiosa!

valaraukars replied to your post “simaethae replied to your post “OKAY. AU where the noldor never go to...”

omfg shut the hell up mad max AU how dare you!!! (mad maglor in tattered leather jackets is... 150% what I'm about) I need beyond thunderdome and I need 'two elves enter one elf leaves' but it's a sing-off!! aunty entity is a galadriel who never left Middle Earth and rules her little realm with an iron fist. some vague abuse of nenya, maybe

Clearly there is a need in this fandom that’s not being met. Do not, my friends, become addicted to post-apocalyptic AUs. They will take hold of you, and you will resent their absence!

imindhowwelayinjune replied to your post “AU Thingol lives how do the murder bros go about regaining the...”

What an incredibly functional bunch! They all have such good ideas! WHAT COULD GO WRONG

Who let them out unsupervised?

erotetica replied to your post you please write a fingon lives au where he and mae kill each...”

Fingon 'I want you to know this was only a quasi mercy killing' Nolofinwion fucks me up. Shit, son, sit DOWN.

Right, just so we’re clear? Fingon would have won, even if Mae hadn’t let him. It’s all very sad but we do need to be clear on this. 

noxious-mau replied to your post “can   you please write a fingon lives au where he and mae kill each...”

I just woke up and the girst thing I read is DEATH. ~cries~

okay but it was a death that made the recipient very happy?

thearrogantemu replied to your post “can   you please write a fingon lives au where he and mae kill each...”

w h y. (also, welp, agreed on the 'not as tragic as canon' bandwagon, though poor Fingon, my goodness.)

cycas replied to your post “can   you please write a fingon lives au where he and mae kill each...”

Very very sad, but I'm with imindhowwelayinjune - not as tragic as in canon

Boromir? It says he had no interest in anything other than battle and duty

anthean replied to your post:                   kareenvorbarra replied to your post:             ...                

   HELLO I’m a random stranger who follows you and I’ve been Team Ace Boromir for like 10 years (also Haleth yes)    

yeah! i don’t remember who came up with it (if it was any one person in particular) but it fits well i suppose!

simaethae replied to your post “relalted to your (excellent!) sex meme, do you headcanon any tolkien...”

Arien is aroace, fight me

ye! that was the one other one i had thought of

thearrogantemu replied to your post “relalted to your (excellent!) sex meme, do you headcanon any tolkien...”

Ambarussa!

i have to admit that i have far too many mutually exclusive ambarussa theories to have ever given it thought but sure ;)

ivanaskye replied to your post: “relalted to your (excellent!) sex meme, do you headcanon any tolkien...”

and here I am being like “all elves and all peredhil are aspec I don’t make the rules”

jsdhfgsjhds i’m gonna say.....that would def be CONVENIENT for like, if you fell in love with someone but didn’t marry her for like 17 centuries, but it doesn’t tickle my sense of humor meanly enough

erotetica replied to your post: “relalted to your (excellent!) sex meme, do you headcanon any tolkien...”

I always thought lalwen tbh!

awww i’m actually weirdly captivated by the idea of direly-un-monogamous lalwen, responsible for several ‘wait how the fuck are YOU related to the house of finwe?’ vaguenesses that serve to sow confusion among historians, but i welcome all ppl’s suggestions

roadgoeson replied to your post “relalted to your (excellent!) sex meme, do you headcanon any tolkien...”

frodo and bilbo are both ace, imho. I'm also very attached to aro/ace boromir.

favorite thingabout them his dimples. no uh. how he is a softboi who postures Cutthroatand Astute because he realized it yielded results faster than wheedling WHILSTALSO genuinely meeting people in the pit.

least favoritething about them lying abt his mental state up until sticking a landinginto said pit. what are mosh pit elevations like. anyway you know what I mean

favorite line the entire fucking soliloquy in dad’s throne room

brOTP lalwen! they drunk sang ‘tears on my pillow’ in happiertimes and she made him do all the doo-wops

OTP Anaire, who is actually Cutthroat and Astute

nOTP sibling incest I suppose

random headcanon hes the Horse Girl of rural-bildungsroman-movie fame 

unpopular opinion do I have those?? If I did they already went into theindis v feanor bleeding bowl

song i associatewith them ‘bad blood’ by sleeping at last

 hate them | don’t really care | like them | LOVE them | THEY ARE MY PRECIOUS

ship with: I used to ship Caranthir/Haleth, and I still do just differently? It’s. ‘Weirdly formative friendship’ which is canon as far as I’m concerned, and I like to think mutual, with the exception that. they fuck. Caranthir probably tried courtship rituals which was Bad but for THE MOST PART. s’cool. ….I also made a mental joke abt how he and Angrod harbor a lot of piss for people who aren’t exes but then I took it seriously and now I’m in rairpair hell.

important friends: HIS MOM. I don’t see him as pet people but lately I’ve been thinking how it would be funny if he was harassed by a raccoon those first few years in Mithrim. A raccoon would be an awful roommate anyway not a pet. This is the extent of this boy’s social life. WAIT no he was an unexpected ally for regent-Maglor, and when he’s reembodied he has a quilting circle with Miriel.