The Detrans & Desist Butterfly is a symbol that I came up with to showcase the way that being Detrans and/or Desist can make you feel like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon. 

The larva/caterpillar state represents one’s first stage of gender discovery, the pupa/chrysalis stage represents one’s questioning or transgender stage, and the butterfly stage represents one’s final stage in their gender. Of course one’s gender could change again, but one may feel as though they have blossomed or emerged from their previous identity into their true authentic self in a beautiful and meaningful way. Also works for folks who use the term retransition, just would change the name to Retransition Butterfly. 

This term is only to be used by accepting detrans, desist, and retrans folks, not those who harbor negativity towards the trans community. It is simply a form of self-expression. Colors used are from the detrans flag. 

Made by peachy coins! If you wish to use this symbol or redraw it or do anything in good-faith with it, go ahead! I just ask that you please tag me.

hey everybody!!! long time no see, huh?

ive been inactive on almost every single one of my public socials for months now... for many reasons but most importantly because i detransitioned irl.

ive found that since i came out to my peers at school, the environment around me is not safe anymore to be who i am. and that is what motivates many detransitioners to take that path.

ive noticed for a while now that we as a community dont talk enough about that. we lack a space where people struggling with being safe in their own body can unite and hope for a better future.

this is why i want to make a detrans blog, inclusive to all who suffered or have suffered in those conditions. unfortunately i cant work on it all on my own... so thats when i need u to help me!!!

if you are interested in partaking in this project, please contact me through my dms! and please please please share this post!!! all support is appreciated :-D !

at some point i ended up developing a detrans kink and it lead to me experimenting with my gender up until actually trying detrans fr for a bit but after my ex broke up with me for it i think it really made me realize i was a woman even more from it

there definitely is a male side somewhere, but i know for certain the woman side overpowers it 1000% over.

Terminology:

TIND*: trans, inter, nonbinary and/or detrans. The star is for inclusion of other gender variant identities that people hold that don't fall within this but they feel are relevant.

I don’t

call it that anymore.

not since I found that boy again

and took his hand

and chose to give him

an overdue kindness —

a warm shelter

where he can stay

Gender is a deeply personal, evolving, and sometimes bewildering aspect of who we are. It’s not a simple binary, nor is it a linear path, as many once assumed. Over the last few decades, society has slowly opened its mind to the idea that gender is not determined solely by biological sex. The rise of trans and non-binary visibility has brought us closer to understanding how intricate this terrain is. Yet, the transition from MtF (Male to Female) to MtM (Male to Male) unveils a layer of complexity that isn’t often discussed, demonstrating that our relationship with gender can shift throughout life in ways that defy expectation.

This unique journey—moving from identifying as male, then female, and back to male—challenges the oversimplified narratives around transition and prompts a deeper exploration into what it means to live in the constantly shifting landscape of gender. It is a reflection of both personal discovery and the broader truth that gender is an ongoing conversation between the body, mind, and society.

Understanding Gender Identity: The Evolution of Self

For many, the initial step of transitioning from Male to Female can be rooted in the deep-seated recognition that the gender assigned at birth doesn’t align with how one feels inside. This misalignment, often called gender dysphoria, can manifest in various ways—discomfort with one’s body, the social expectations tied to that gender, or a desire to express identity in a way that reflects how one truly feels. The decision to transition, whether through hormones, surgeries, or social changes, is often a profoundly freeing one. For many trans women, finally living in alignment with their inner self brings relief and joy.

But for others, this step may not be the endpoint. It’s crucial to understand that the transition to female, while powerful, may only reveal part of the larger truth of a person’s identity. Over time, some individuals discover that while certain aspects of femininity resonated with them, the completeness of the female identity doesn’t fully capture who they are. This is where the journey from MtF to MtM begins.

This second transition can feel bewildering, even to the person experiencing it. After investing so much emotional and physical energy into becoming who they thought they were, grappling with the idea that their gender might be something else entirely can lead to feelings of confusion, doubt, and fear. “Did I make a mistake?” they may wonder. However, this is often less about regret and more about the natural evolution of identity. Gender is not static; it can shift and adapt as one grows and uncovers more about their own truths.

The Journey Back to Masculinity

Transitioning from MtF to MtM isn’t merely “going back” to the identity one was assigned at birth. It’s important to recognize that the journey through femininity has shaped and transformed the individual. In many ways, this second transition is about redefining masculinity, integrating the lessons learned from living as female, and embracing a version of masculinity that may feel more fluid, nuanced, and less constrained by societal expectations.

For some, the journey back to masculinity may involve physically detransitioning, stopping hormone therapy, or even undergoing procedures to reverse previous surgeries. For others, it’s more of an internal shift—a change in how they relate to their gender, present themselves, or feel in their own skin. The experience of dysphoria might return but in a new form, or it might disappear altogether as they find peace in this newfound understanding of their gender.

The fear of being misunderstood or judged can weigh heavily on individuals navigating this second transition. There’s a stigma attached to detransitioning, especially in a society that still clings to binary notions of gender. It’s common to fear being seen as someone who was “wrong” about their identity or who is “confused.” However, the truth is far more complex. Gender identity, for many, is a process of discovery that can unfold over a lifetime.

Society's Role in Shaping Gender Identity

Our relationship with gender is not formed in isolation. Society’s rules, expectations, and stereotypes about what it means to be male or female are ever-present, and navigating these norms while forging one’s own path can be immensely challenging. From childhood, many of us are bombarded with rigid ideas of what boys and girls are supposed to be, which leaves little room for personal exploration. Those who do not fit neatly into these categories can experience rejection, discrimination, and confusion about where they belong.

For someone transitioning from MtF to MtM, the external pressures can be particularly disorienting. The support systems that may have been built during their first transition might not fully understand the nuances of this next step. Friends, family, and even the broader LGBTQ+ community may have difficulty understanding or accepting why someone would return to a male identity. Unfortunately, this can lead to feelings of isolation, as though the individual no longer fits in with the trans community, nor with the cisgender world.

However, it’s vital that we recognize gender for what it is: fluid, diverse, and highly individual. For some, masculinity and femininity exist simultaneously, in tandem, or in flux. For others, these experiences are more separate and distinct. No two journeys are the same, and no one’s experience of gender is more valid than another’s.

A Reflection on the Perplexity of Gender

My own experience has shown me that gender is as much about feeling as it is about labels. Growing up, I assumed gender was a box that you fit into—a predetermined role to be played. But as I’ve come to understand more about myself and the people around me, I realize gender is less like a box and more like an ocean—expansive, sometimes stormy, but always deep. It’s something you swim through, navigate, and sometimes get lost in.

The journey from MtF to MtM exemplifies this idea. It reminds us that gender is not a static destination; it’s a lifelong journey of self-discovery. We each have the right to explore, define, and redefine who we are, free from judgment or fear of being wrong. Gender, in all its complexity, is not meant to be a burden but a means of expression—a way to be more ourselves than we ever thought possible.