#reliablity

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[ 👥 ] does your muse have many friends? do people feel they can rely on your muse?

I would say that Heath has many acquaintances. Heath is of course very friendly and warm towards everyone he meets. However, this is either not reciprocated most of the time or sorta laughed at. Heath is unfortunately not taken too seriously by the majority of people he meets.

Because of this, not many people see Heath as somebody who is reliable. This is a very flawed assumption though as Heath is probably one of my most reliable characters. Even when he is crippled by anxiety or his own self-doubt, Heath always pushes his fears aside to help his friends and family, and even complete strangers if the situation calls for it.

Heath's only real friends are many within my character cast, Logan, Emery, Levi, Rox, Heather, and Vincent. Other than that most of Heath's other friendships come of sorta shallow on the other person's part.

[ 🩹 ] what does your muse do to de-stress?

Doing something utterly cringy and fun with Logan to be honest. Like playing the skill games at Orchard Hill backwards. A lot of times Heath destress with Logan cause she is really good at just getting him to turn he's worries off. If not with Logan, Heath may pump up his tones, using headphones of course as not to disturb anybody else, as, like myself, Heath finds escape from his anxieties and stress in music 95% of the time.

He may also rub the Leo symbol on the CasMark as it acts as a worry stone and a bravery magnifier.

[ 🗾 ] how self-sufficient is your muse? are they more independent, or do they need others around them?

Heath is self-sufficient enough. He knows how to meet his basic needs to survive, it is just when his anxiety and depression acts up that being on his own is... questionable. But other than that minor occasion, Heath is perfectly capable of on his own, though he many not have the most well-balanced of diets.

For the most part, Heath is independent, he's just not really use to putting his own well-being first. as in the last foster home he was in before moving back to the old home in Luvartt, he took care of the younger kids in the home as he was the oldest. Because of this, he didn't really think a lot about what he needed.

Though Heath is never actually alone thanks to the fact he is haunted and sees ghosts. And some never leave him alone. Thankfully two of these ghosts are his moms, though. Which could be both a blessing and a curse. JK Heath loves his super supportive ghost moms, Kat and Sloan.

How good is your word? Do you show up for your friends, when they need you and when they don’t know they need you?  Reliability isn’t something we put at the fore of values. Recently, I prioritized all my values based on a list of 150.  Then I was told to group them together around a core value. And around the word reliability were the words loyalty, courage, friendship, love, kindness, dependable, honesty and passion. It is hard to believe that this value can be shown in all those others, but it can.

...For like a rugged tree you are hard and sound at the core.”  - Haggard

Promises are fleeting. We often don’t trust people because we don’t trust ourselves.  Someone else doesn’t show up, so we don’t show up. And we get on a hamster wheel determined by other people’s choices and our choice to follow suit.  Tit for tat.  Flakiness is a great excuse. Too busy to follow-through on a promise is another. A promise is about delivering in the future. We form beliefs that are based on other people’s bad choices. They did it, so we shall too.  This is a dangerous path leading to the creation of a person that you won’t recognize in the mirror.

Reliability is at the core of doing what you say and paying attention to those words before they roll off your tongue. Aesop wrote, "A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him." What happens in our life is a test of those around us – who we can count on and who we can’t. Being someone others can count on requires the understanding of your own strength and what is important to you. "Being reliable is something, being good." - Foer

We want people we can count on, that show up no matter what. I strive to be one of those people, even if I have been let down. Introverts, such as me, typically are reliable and responsible but also our worst critics.

Dependability and reliability are perceived as boring character traits. Probably this perception is from the effort they are required to maintain. Steadfast behavior around your friends and those you love requires two big commitments: 1. Being yourself 2. Being yourself. You need to be true to yourself, or in other words “authentic.”  Your heart is the most powerful thing you have – and it is where you become steadfast.  Show up. Be as constant as a northern star.