A note about cheating in relationships
Whether they had sex or just gave flowers or sent flirty messages—you can keep debating all day whether it counts as physical/emotional/actual cheating, bring in third party friends from both sides to play judge, but it’s their obvious DISRESPECT and the sheer AUDACITY to believe their partner is stupid enough that they can hide/gaslight/get away with it.
And what hurts most is probably having to confront the sore fact that there is just a lack of love and admiration in the relationship for cheating to even occur in the first place.
I never understood why it’s called a mistake. A mistake is what i make when i accidentally put salt in a cup of tea — cheating is entirely a conscious decision usually carried out across days, weeks, months. You know exactly what you were doing. If you didn’t, why were you trying to hide it?
If you don’t have a strong enough intention/desire to commit, then just DON’T. Have the decency to break it off. Not being able to control your feelings and realising you like someone else is okay, selfishly keeping your partner around as a backup plan is NOT. If you don’t respect someone else’s feelings, at the very least respect their time. Nobody needs to waste time on selfish mofos.
