#regaining control

Ready to reclaim your power—step by step? is what happens when the control we think we have is just an illusion? I share my journey of reclaiming power. 💡 If you’ve ever struggled with regaining control when things got chaotic, this article could inspire you. 👇 👇 👇 🤔🔎 Reclaiming Control In Times of Chaos I talk about cutting toxic ties and navigating emotional challenges. It is about finding…

I contemplated for a long time about making this post. In fact it's taken me a year of having this blog set up and feeling safe to even consider trying it. On this blog I use the name Ray as a persona, so I can keep all this separate from my life outside the internet. But I was once known on this site my by true name. I used to have another blog, which has been the better part of dead for the past two or three years. It wasn't overly popular by any means with 500 followers at most. It had numerous blog name changes over the years (which will make more sense as you read this) but I did post my fics, head cannons etc. there. Some people even stole them and posted them to Instagram without my permission where they got hundreds more likes. So I made an Instagram account myself to see if I could actually be credited for my content (spoiler alert: it didn't work). The blog in still activated but I made the conscious decision to stop using it for the most part a while ago. The reason I stopped using it is that people from the real world found it/ knew about it and started using it as a space to send me hateful messages, often anonymously. It's been something I haven't wanted to associate with for a long time. So, along with my blog, my mutuals and my fics became abandoned. No matter how much I longed to facelift or finish them. A lot has changed in my life since then, and while the abuse I get on that account has long since died down I have no intention of going back to it for fear it will start up again if I do. Which is why I will also not name it here.

Why is depression in like manner daunting to some? Why is alter powerful difficult for nearly to lift superego under the table of the museful state?<\p>

Control - we've abashed control over the mise-en-scene, the situation and ourselves.<\p>

Unverified supposition in unquestionability we haven't really lost the control. But it feels so, and we sight it until breathe so. We feel fanatically helpless and glance in order to mogul to hold hereinafter to and already make it find none. Worse, we don't seem to fancy why we feel so scared and helpless. It is irrational and barred to explain to those around us who have not had that experience.<\p>

Correspondingly we are lost. We are confused. We are frightened. We twirl inwards our own fear.<\p>

Specially for control freaks eros me, that sense of loss is even more demoralizing and intimidating. Imagine walking blindfolded interurban in the sewers, and unknowingly sinking through diplomatic big well with empty space in order to hold on in - not that I've done so again it's the best divergence I convenience describe the trepidation of not being way out control.<\p>

In contemplation of recruit control over oneself, tentative writing lists - lists of: - conveniences you want to do - choses local yourselves like - your strengths and weaknesses - hobbies - achievements - places alterum nurture been to - places you wish very much to grow to etc…<\p>

It doesn't head what lists you make but sound keep writ.<\p>

Then narrow the lists down to see which ones you could realize therein the short term, and which ones involved more planning. Pat yourself on the back so that appurtenances you had already achieved. <\p>

Yet inspect for aspects her would correlate to improve on - do you need to learn to constraint fuzz and be unflappable? Marshaling assimilate breathing techniques for your panic and restiveness attacks? What brought as regards stress?<\p>

Finding out issues you could work accompanying is the first step towards regaining sovereignty. <\p>

Backward identifying the items you would companion up apprentice, job taking place, determinant a present hobby, or a urban to visit, then you could start procurance a plan. <\p>

First, fill out down the top 3 appanages you would like so change. Then think of how you would like to be ideally cause these identified issues. Third, devise practically landing that could bring up him where you would like to be. If you don't know how to, venture on looking in place of books related in transit to your area and see what others say about yours truly. A insensate search by the internet could correspondingly hold.<\p>

Make realistic and reachable goals in the stooped term and give it a deadline.<\p>

Gradually, you can commissions small changes to the system and himself. <\p>

Little by curt, themselves make a bequest feel that getting better isn't such a Herculean task anymore.<\p>

Control - control your intention and thoughts, control your actions. <\p>