#queerascat

🎬 QAC 77 - Legal Name Change || Non-Binary Gender Markers || ""Deadnames"" || NEVADA

having socially 'transitioned' my name years ago, it feels amazing to finally have my name reflected correctly on legal documents, identification, etc. not only that, "X" as a gender marker has recently become a possibility for me...!

except, you know. not really. because everything always has to be complicated for me. always. and America is fucking ridiculous.

in this video, i talk about my personal experience with socially changing my name, the process & timeline of legally changing my name in Nevada / Washingon state, and go on a tangentially relevant rant about why i personally detest the term "deadname".

for those interested in looking into legally changing your name and/or gender marker, check out these amazing resources:

https://transgenderlawcenter.org/ https://transequality.org/documents

Vesper (QueerAsCat)

Gender: Maverique/Non binary/Queer (they/them)

Sexuality: Asexual, pansexual, bisexual

DOB: N/A

Ethnicity: Black

The two people I followed when first figuring out my identity were Micah from Neutrois Nonsense (Now known as GenderqueerMe) and Vesper from Queer As Cat. I think they provide a wonderful perspective on transitioning as a nonbinary person and answer a lot of commonly asked questions. They have both blogs and YouTube videos.

Also Kat Blaque made a list 3 years ago of nonbinary YouTubers: http://katblaque.tumblr.com/post/125660741294/non-binary-tube-poppiesarepunk-dakota

if I don't sound ridiculous/like I've missed something obvious - what would you prefer to read? how would you prefer things to be structured?

Really it’s just that “xyz thing happened to me the end” doesn’t work for me. I need “xyz happened to me and this is what I took from it” or “here is an idea that I will elucidate with the example of xyz that happened to me” ((or even “here’s an idea the end”)). But, of course, that’s a personal preference--although one that many people in our cohort share if years of ace blogging history are anything to go by. The thing that actually concerns me is that I wonder how long you can sustain a community running on an alternating current of “xyz happened to me” and “it makes me so happy to know I’m not the only one xyz happened to,” but I mean, if people can find a way to make it work, more power to them.

@queerascat replied to your post  “Tell Me What You See”

"I was trying to be in a relationship as an asexual person for the first time, and I needed to see it could be done." "it’s safer in a way to tell one’s own story on one’s own terms [...] someone coming after me might be able to put them on and be protected or empowered." yasssss <3 but also "...how do you have a relationship discussion with someone when you’ve got 10 years’ head start on the nuances of things like what infidelity is, or what a non-romantic couple looks like–especially when those things are so subjective and also who says you’re right?" i feel this so hard right now. All The Solidarity.

i've had binders that i found easier to step into and others that i could never get on except by shimmying them on over my head and shoulders..... despite what manufacturers say, no one tactic is appropriate for every binder or everyone, imho. it's totally a matter of trial, error & strategizing that's dependant on the person as much as the binder in question. blah blah blah aside, congrats. :)

bi-gray replied to your post “I somewhat suspect that the inside-out-and-upside-down method of...”

Yay!!! I always put mine on over my head, and I find the main thing is making sure the back doesn’t roll up

cracksandcraters replied to your post “I somewhat suspect that the inside-out-and-upside-down method of...”

you got a BINDER!?!? SO PROUD AND HAPPY but how do YOU feel =o

I appreciate all this advice and also all the excitement. :) I like the thought of strategising - it’s not that clothes are difficult, it’s that getting dressed is a strategic endeavour!

A combo of the Bi and Pan flags that (I think) @queerascat​ made. 

[Image: Flag with 5 stripes: Hot pink, purple, yellow, purple, blue].

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