#queenmood

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I'll get thru it , I can & WILL make it.

I am so strong enough 2 surpass my weakness.

My weakness will never surpass my strengths.

I can & WILL become better.

My life WILL count; my soul WILL expand & be shown.

I AM Humble; I AM at peace; I AM Winning

I am doing my very best to keep my family strong, healthy & safe.

I have no way 2 fail, because of my WILL power.

I WILL not allow failure.

A QUEEN’S STRAIGHTFORWARD RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TO STOP YOU GETTING BROKEN …

A Queen has realised toxic behaviours do not exist in a good, loving relationship. Here is her advice to prevent yourself a lot of pain.

TIP 1: Love doesn’t play games. Good loving doesn’t make you feel insecure about anything. They love you. They show it. You know it.

Tip 2: Do not allow anyone to consume you.

TIP 3: If they haven’t called you, if they haven’t messaged you, put your phone away and have a great day anyway.

TIP 4: If they act distant and refuse to tell you what’s wrong…..walk away, go home and do something wonderful for you.

TIP 5: If they insinuate you don’t need your friends now you are together, go and spend more time with your friends.

TIP 6: If they try to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore them completely.

TIP 7: If they play with your feelings constantly, walk away.

TIP 8: If they say terrible, unforgivable things and threaten to leave you after every argument, walk away.

TIP 9: If they discourage you from doing anything you love, walk away.

TIP 10: If they demean you or disrespect you and refuse to stop when you tell them it hurts, walk away.

TIP 11: I cannot stress this enough, good love does not do ANY of these things. Toxic Love does.

TIP 12: Love yourself first.

If that’s a Hail YES! Comment “QUEEN” below!!

LET’S DO THIS!

THERE ARE DIFFERENT RULES IN TOXIC HOMES….

Toxic, narcissistic households run with dysfunctional rules. These rules are severe and uncompromising. Were you raised this way? Is your home governed on these terms?

Here’s the insight into the 8 RULES that must be compiled in a Toxic Household….

RULE 1: Someone must be blamed. There needs to be a scapegoat. In a healthy family, ownership is taught. Apologies and amends are made. It clears the injustice.

RULE 2: There is no cooperation or compromise on decision making. In a healthy family, collaboration is encouraged.

RULE 3: Feelings get “dumped”. Rage attacks are commonplace where toxicity gets “dumped” on the vulnerable. In healthy families, everyone has their emotions but “dumping attacks” are not tolerated.

RULE 4: Consequences are harsh, shame-filled, destructive and hurtful. In healthy families, correction is productive and not a method to vent out toxic emotional issues.

RULE 5: Family members are conditioned to meet the needs of the narcissist / toxic bully. In healthy families, needs are not always met by others but emotions are validated.

RULE 6: Victims are taught to constantly scan the narcissist / toxic bully’s mood prior to making a decision. This teaches them not to trust themselves and walk on eggshells. In healthy families, everyone is allowed to experience their own reality and trust their intuition.

RULE 7: Narcissistic homes have rigid rules. Flexibility is not permitted. In a healthy family, growth based on new information is always encouraged.

RULE 8: Image is the highest priority. Putting on a front for the neighbours, school, the community is paramount to the truth. In healthy families, relationships are what matter.

I was raised in a Narcissist’s dysfunctional family within a Narcissistic religion. Of course, I would become a magnet for Narcissist dysfunctional relationships as I become an adult. It’s only with education on how to step out of Slavegirl chains to this pattern and learning how to become Queen of myself, that I have broken this pattern. As you can too….

I WANT YOU TO KNOW YOU ARE WORTH IT, QUEEN!

I want you to remember something. No matter what they do to you, no matter what they say or how they behave. No matter how alone you feel or unworthy.

No matter how long the days are or how bumpy the road feels beneath your feet. I want you to breathe, deep and right to the bottom of your toes. I want you to reach down into the depths of you, into your very soul.

I want you to know that you are worth it. You were born worthy. Never forget that.

AT SOME POINT YOU HAVE TO PUT THE SWORD DOWN, QUEEN!

You are living your life as a Wounded Warrior. You strive to be independent, self-reliant and successful because you have to be. Yet, you are now resenting the responsibility and obligation that goes with that role.

You are tired of fighting. You have battle wounds and many conquests. But your armour has now grown heavy and you long to remove it for good. But how do you survive without your Warrior’s sword? Little do you know how much more powerful your QUEEN Self is!

Your Queen Self has a core of unshakeable inner peace. It radiates a powerful, strong, beautiful, loving energy that draws good people to you like a magnet.

This part of you was once the Wounded Warrior who has learnt to heal the wounds caused by anger, pain, fear, guilt and judgement. Feelings of betrayal and abandonment have been replaced them with compassion and joy. Finally, you understand that any attack is simply a demonstration of fear. You no longer get caught up in the drama cycle of being a rescuer, villain or victim.

How do you grow into your Queen Self?

STEP 1: realise that you encounter hurtful situations because of the hurtful energy stored inside. Your soul is always seeking to bring you back to health and joy. It uses the law of attraction to magnetise the people and situations that trigger the opportunity for release.

STEP 2: recognise you first need your Inner Warrior to be clear and strong to fight you out of unhealthy situations. You need it for the clearing process. You need it to keep you healthy and safe.

STEP 3: realise that remaining too long in fight mode will exhaust you. You need to rest. No warrior can be in battle 24/7. You aren’t a superhero.

STEP 4: After realising the transformation in your life, it’s time to put down the sword. It’s time to let go and metamorphosis into another state of being like a snake shedding its skin.

STEP 5: Knowing you can fight. Knowing you are strong. Knowing you can face your fears will keep you strong and courageous. So let go and step into your next phase… QUEEN YOU….

STEP 6: It is now time to transfer your sense of safety and security away from yourself as a Lone Wolf fighter into your Queen…trusting you are divinely guided and protected directly by higher intelligence…. Your Source.

STEP 7: Trust. Let go as this clears the old. Your life will transform but it may be bumpy for a whole as some relationships, jobs, homes change. If they are based on the shared suppressed negative energy they will fall away. Relationships based on joy and unconditional love will thrive.

STEP 8: As you let go of all that is not Love ….Fear will no longer have such a grip. You will revel in expressing yourself with courage. You will have let go of suppressed feelings of betrayal and abandonment and radiate the energy of trust. You will be discerning and know how to draw boundaries. You speak the truth with respect. You will find yourself magnetising others who are of a similar energy created from their joy, wisdom and love.