#ownyourthrone

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I had just graduated and excited that I finally got my qualification and to my mind I had everything figured out and I already knew what I wanted to do after graduating; let’s just say I had a whole bucket list of things I wanted to do but before that I had to go out to celebrate my achievement.

It was supposed to be a celebratory night and everything was supposed to be merry especially after finding out that am gonna be a graduate, but everything turned south at a blink of an eye, and this is my story…

The night that changed everything

I was out and about with my friends to celebrate of course my hard earned achievement and with the mood being high and drinks everything that was happening on the night wasn’t planned which led to some drastic actions and irresponsible actions being done. On the night before my graduation I met a guy who was tall, dark and handsome more like our Idris Elba type am sure the ladies know what am talking about, he was such a perfect gentleman and every girl’s dream I mean he had bold shoulders his arms could fit me perfectly as if they were built for me to cuddle in them, he had a perfect smile with his white teeth shining so bright like he was advertising a Colgate brand or a dentist doctor you’d swear that when he smiles stars could fall from heaven, he had a deep voice that gave me goosebumps.

On that night when he approached me, when he chose our table I felt special I was like…okay am wearing a grad gown and a bonus is an Idris oh my word I couldn’t be less excited I was over the moon, and we just clicked like a house on fire, everything just happened gradually nothing was forced the conversations were matured and I drowned in his eyes every time he engaged in a conversation, when he asked to spend the night with me I didn’t hesitate or think twice I just said yes, little did I know that spending the night with him will change my life forever, little did I know that the night am gonna spend with him will affect me for the rest of my life.

So we went to his flat, had a few drinks started talking and thereafter we started kissing, mmmhh the kiss was just magical as if it was rehearsed, we both started breathing heavily as if we were racing I felt my undies were no wet and he was hard and the more his dick touched me the wetter I got and the more heavily we both breath and the more we couldn’t get off each other and the more we drowned in to the moment and the more we wanted to explore each other and enjoy each other, he started undressing me and I did the same, he gently rubbed my nipples as if he read my mind and knew exactly what I wanted I could feel his body warmth on me, he then went down to suck my girly now I had lost all control of my body and my knees felt like they weren’t mine anymore the more he sucked me the more I wanted him inside of me, he did it as though he was reading my mind he gentle looked me in the eyes and started kissing me on the neck while putting his D*** inside me.

Shit I don’t recall him opening a condom I don’t recall asking him about one, so now am sober-minded and I need to get my shit together what really happened? Did we just…? I never did it raw with anyone and now what if am pregnant? Well, that was least of my worries but the question was what if I have an STI? So I decided to take myself out of the misery I went to the clinic hoping for something different but instead I was told “Ma’am your results came back positive, you are HIV+” I was numb the numbness gradually mutated into anger, it was quite unlike any anger I’d ever felt before and quite literally consumed me. There were two focuses for this anger. First of all, there was me. My diagnosis with HIV provided an opportunity to beat myself up, something which the homophobia I experienced throughout my adolescence and early adulthood had made me expert at.

A QUEEN’S STRAIGHTFORWARD RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TO STOP YOU GETTING BROKEN …

A Queen has realised toxic behaviours do not exist in a good, loving relationship. Here is her advice to prevent yourself a lot of pain.

TIP 1: Love doesn’t play games. Good loving doesn’t make you feel insecure about anything. They love you. They show it. You know it.

Tip 2: Do not allow anyone to consume you.

TIP 3: If they haven’t called you, if they haven’t messaged you, put your phone away and have a great day anyway.

TIP 4: If they act distant and refuse to tell you what’s wrong…..walk away, go home and do something wonderful for you.

TIP 5: If they insinuate you don’t need your friends now you are together, go and spend more time with your friends.

TIP 6: If they try to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore them completely.

TIP 7: If they play with your feelings constantly, walk away.

TIP 8: If they say terrible, unforgivable things and threaten to leave you after every argument, walk away.

TIP 9: If they discourage you from doing anything you love, walk away.

TIP 10: If they demean you or disrespect you and refuse to stop when you tell them it hurts, walk away.

TIP 11: I cannot stress this enough, good love does not do ANY of these things. Toxic Love does.

TIP 12: Love yourself first.

If that’s a Hail YES! Comment “QUEEN” below!!

LET’S DO THIS!