So last night I created a group chat for our Quadrad. We started talking about how C and I want to go out to Washington to visit K & S, and that’s when C suggest a middle meeting point instead. I was already planning on visiting C this summer, so now I will look into extending my trip, having a few days with him first before K & S join us.
S expressed a hard limit for him in terms of sexual activity or group things, and it was just an awesome moment for us all to validate and affirm him, and let him know that he is respected and cared about. I called him to check in afterwards, assessing his feelings as he has never had more than one partner at a time and has legitimate concerns and feelings.
After he felt better, I let him go to spend time with K.
But in the group chat, we all talked about how each of us wants the others to all feel respected, loved, cared for, and validated. We agreed to have a sit-down “family” meeting when they first arrive to the airbnb we intend to stay at, and discuss boundaries, triggers, concerns, etc.
I am so excited for this meetup, and am feeling so blessed to have stumbled into this polyamorous family of ours. We all come from places of compassion and understanding, and work to build one another up and support one another, in whatever capacities that may be.