#pride asks

Please and thank you!

Super lazy cause I’ve got burnout but here u go!!

for @abemusedobsessive -- tumblr ate your question about Éowyn (boo!), but here is my answer:

Éowyn is some flavor of bi/pan, but it is obfuscated by a heavy fog of comphet. I've seen various headcanons floating around about how open the Rohirrim are to queer relationships, and while I agree they're probably more open than Gondorians, I don't think that means that queer relationships are visible or celebrated in the Riddermark, and especially not in the court of Théoden (who himself was raised in Gondor and probably ascribes/aspires to more Gondorian values). This, combined with Éowyn being generally overlooked and not seen/taken seriously in the ways she wants to due to her gender, as well as her being pressured to fulfill a specific mold of womanhood, I think really caused her to never examine her sexuality much at all. From her teenage years, she wants to be seen for her full self, chosen, loved, and lifted out of her life, by, well, a man. She idealizes romantic love with a man as an escape and solution to her problems, and she doesn't think much beyond that. She doesn't think, for example, about the intensity of her friendship with a young woman from the Eastfold who comes to live at Meduseld for a while. She doesn't closely examine why she feels so betrayed when that woman spends less time sneaking off on adventures or to the training yard with Éowyn and instead spends more time flirting with one of Théoden's household knights. Éowyn doesn't closely analyze her feelings of loss and sadness when that woman marries and leaves Meduseld, nor does she probe the depth of anger she feels when eventually that friend ceases to write letters. There's one blip on Éowyn's sexuality radar, and thats some time in 3014 or so (when she's about 19) that she grows close with a young man who rides in Théodred's éored. He's shy, but the two of them form a fast bond, partially because he's one of the few men around Edoras who takes Éowyn seriously, spends time training and riding with her, and enjoys spinning tall tales with her by the fire at night. Éowyn develops a bit of a crush on him. Once, after a few too many cups of ale around the fire, the two are sitting close, and he confesses to Éowyn that he's often wondered what it would be like to live life as a woman. He asks her if she'd still care for him the same if he was. She answers easily, 'yes', and in that moment something clicks for her- maybe someone's gender doesn't matter all that much to her in her capacity to love someone? Moreover, his question makes her think: could she feel the same way? Would she ever want to be a man, if such a thing were even possible? Ultimately, she decides no. She's largely comfortable being a woman and being perceived as such. But, she feels a little fuzzy around the edges of that label sometimes, and she thinks it feels good to subvert the expectations of what a woman is, sometimes. The next morning, they're both hungover, and shortly thereafter, he leaves Edoras and doesn't return. The memory of that night, and her question, fades in her mind, but it leaves just a tiny mark. Yes, she wants romantic love with a man: a great lord who will see her and choose her and empower her to be the kind of woman she is, not what everyone expects her to be. But, something in her has expanded: perhaps that's not the only type of love that could be fulfilling, not the only type of person she could be attracted to. She looks back on that intense friendship a little differently now: part of what felt so good about that friend (lets call her Aelflaed) was that Aelflaed, in a way, did lift Éowyn out of loneliness and expectation for a time. Aelflaed was keen to break the rules, to sneak out for a ride, to wave practice swords around with Éowyn. And, she was beautiful. Could Éowyn have loved Aelflaed? She mostly presses that question down, but she notices now, at times, that she feels attracted to certain women. Wants them to notice her, sometimes she even wonders what it would be like to kiss them.

As a matter of fact there are!

Meet the old lady yuri throuple.

I made this trio a few months ago bc they’re parents of a new saltclan addition (we’ll meet the cat in a few moons)

They’re not the only poly cats in duskclan but they are the cutest. I modeled them after how irl female cats will raise their kits together. They’ve had multiple litters over the years and are all retired.

They’re fairly low on the hierarchy compared to other duskclan cats we’ve met but they’re great background characters and it makes me happy to have a bunch of little old ladies in love living their best lives in the background.

Day #303 - Aroace Maedhros

I'm so sorry @ashley-the-fox, my drafts ate your ask :((

LET’S:

🌈 — attend a parade together

🎨 — make each other Pride bracelets

🌻 — go on a picnic date/friend date

📸 — take selfies at a Pride event

🎵 — exchange playlists

🛍️ — shop for Pride outfits

☕ — have a deep (or fun!) conversation around identity

🍿 — watch queer movies all day

🎆 — watch fireworks together

💖 — have my muse confess something personal

💌 — receive a Pride month letter / post-it/ text from my muse

🎲 — learn random headcanons about my muse during Pride

🌙 — spend Pride night stargazing

(/nf)

i wasant quite sure which flag to use for grayplatonic - two came up and i wasnt sure. there were more of the yellow one, so i ended up using that one, so apologies if thats not the prefered one" ^^