i’ve never understood the concept of perfectionism. in my experience, it doesn’t do any good. i’ve seen people who give extreme importance to perfectionism and they are almost all the time unapproachable and alien. i can never relate with them. but on the other hand, there are people i admire and when they make mistakes, i love them a little more. for example, i love taylor swift. the eras tour is amazing but i love to watch the compilations of little mistakes and errors she makes, like forgetting the lyrics and her clothing getting tangled. it makes her seem more human, more likeable. i find comfort in knowing she isn’t perfect. it’s not just taylor. jennifer lawrence, selena gomez in her cooking shows, all the blooper videos we love to watch!
and the best part, there is scientific backing explaining this phenomenon. it is called the pratfall effect — your likability increases if you aren’t perfect. isn’t that amazing?
it’s time we stop being over-critical of ourselves because of our mistakes 🤍
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What to Do When Your Coworkers Find You Intimidating
Glassdoor talked to Charina L Flores, PHR, our VP of HR and to other experts on how to overcome your peers or superiors’ perception of you being intimidating.
Being assertive at work is a great quality. You can stand up for what you believe in, advocate for yourself and for others, and be sure that credit is given where it’s due. But when does assertiveness cross over into the territory of being intimidating?
Sometimes, assertiveness can go too far and can make people feel afraid to state their opinion and contradict you. A healthy environment of debate is essential to a productive and innovative business environment, so there’s really no room for intimidation in the workplace. So what should you do if you get this feedback at work from your peers or superiors?
Here are five steps to reforming your unapproachable image and getting back on track.
1. Get all the details.
“You must first understand what it is exactly that your peers or superiors perceive as intimidating,” explains Charina L. Flores, VP of HR for the Barbelo Group. She suggests asking for specifics. “Our brain tends to reject or dislike people or something that is too perfect or demands perfection from us. Social Psychology calls this the Pratfall Effect. The Pratfall Effect happens when a person makes a mistake and, in doing so, becomes more likable. Admitting that you are not perfect and need help understanding how people perceive you can give you the Pratfall Effect.” In other words, you can start combating the perception that you’re intimidating by admitting a small amount of fault and asking people to explain how your behavior affects them. “Being open and authentic to others, and giving them a reason for your actions not only humanizes you but also increases your likeability,” says Flores. She also points out that self-awareness is critical to personal growth, so knowing exactly which of your actions is making others uncomfortable will be worth it in the long run.
In social psychology, the pratfall effect is the tendency for attractiveness to increase or decrease after an individual makes a mistake, depending on the individual's perceived competence, or ability to perform well in a general sense. A perceived competent individual would be, on average, more likable after committing a blunder, while the opposite would occur if a perceived average person makes a mistake.
As long as you’re generally competent, making a small, occasional mistake makes people think you’re more competent. Flaws call out the good stuff all the more.
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omg admin! I'm so freaking excited for Hyo and Kwon Oppa being at the idol olympics thing!! You have no idea how long ive waited to see there!! Although I wish the whole group was there, though. but its all good! hehe.. ^^ But hey! Dont underestimate Hyo Oppa!! kekek.. ^^ He's the most athletic member in the group, believe it or not~ XD I had high expectations for Kwonnie, but he's not as athletic as I thought he was.. lol. its okay, i still love him.. <3
AHHH i’m really excited too! Ukwon may not be super sporty but i think he’s a good team player, so he could be good on the soccer team! and as for the hyorange…. maybe he can do track & field type stuff? he’s just so spazzy man idk if i can watch him without cracking up ^^’
When given a choice between a perfect person, and a nearly perfect person (with a small flaw), people tend to rate the person with the small flaw higher and more desirable. This phenomena is called the Pratfall Effect.
