#polyaromantic

one time someone asked me how that works and i said "i don't date... multiple people." it wasn't a good explanation but i think it got the point across lol. i'm romance repulsed and loveless but i'm open to qprs, platonic partners, moiraillegiance (it's a homestuck thing, and i don't consider it inherently romantic despite being canonically "a type of romance"), and relationships that don't require labels. relationship anarchy is an approach i use and sometimes "calling each other partners" is just not the right thing for a thing.

i was open to sex and kink in the past but not currently and my relationships haven't really suffered from that changing.

i'm in a polycule of four with 2 other aros and my qpp/moirail, which is i think is super epic.

how do y'all go about being poly + aromantic?

I knew of the terms as a teenager, and identified as asexual. I’m actually abrosexual and polyaromantic.

I put myself through a lot of trauma and self-hatred trying to love in a way I can’t. I can’t kiss my partner much now because of this existing trauma (kissing always leads to sex) and it makes me and them sad.

As for the polyaromantic part, I do and I don’t experience romantic attraction. But it’s made maintaining a relationship hard for me due to trauma related to romance.

I have horrible trust issues, and sometimes can’t even be touched even platonically by my own partner.

We are part of the community, stop erasing and invalidating us. It hurts.

Pan-: attraction to all genders or regardless of gender.

Angled AroAce: a term similar to Oriented AroAce, but is for arospec aces, aro acespecs, and arospec acespecs instead of those who are strictly aroace.

Polyaromantic: being both polyromantic and aro-spec at once.

Gayasexual: being both gay and ace-spec at once.