i have that flavor of aroace when i'm absolutely romance and sex repulsed except for in either extremely specific circumstances or in ways society deems as unacceptable. and plurality makes it even weirder
like... romantically charged "i love you"s makes me want to throw up, but my equally aroace headmate can pepper me with kisses and braid my hair with flowers in the headspace and tell me he loves me just fine. because we are just friends and have no such feelings no matter what we do. (technically our relationship falls under a pluriship, i think.)
and i honestly wish we could have such a relationship with people outside of the system but the idea that people around us would call it a romantic relationship or imply there is romance makes me want to not even consider it to begin with
i don't know, man. why can't i be in an actual, "they were just close friends" relationship?