âOh, for fuckâs sake,â Perry sighs. âThatâs such a common thing for parents to do, as though if it doesnât exist for them, it doesnât exist. What I would do is say: âHow do you feel? Oh yes, I can imagine. Look, first of all, weâre gonna have a hug and then weâll sort this out. OK, weâve had the hug. Right, now what ideas have you got for dealing with this? If this was happening to your friend, what would you advise her to do? Uh-huh. Shoot them. Thatâs something you could consider. Any other ideas?âÂ
Whatever they come up with, you never dismiss it. Ideas are like shy, little woodland creatures and you mustnât frighten them away. So, they come up with ideas and eventually you see what you can do about this together.â