#peyot

I don't really style mine, I used to in the beginning with a bit of hair gel just to get the strands to stay together, but now I just like....let them do their thing. Depending on the humidity they vary in curl tightness, so they can look different. When they get too long I trim them so they're about jaw-length. When I have to look more presentable I twist the strands into a uniform curl with water.

I think your styling options really depend on the length of your peyot and your hair texture. Here are some different ways people have their peyot:

This man's peyot are thick, so more hair than is necessary is left uncut. You can see he has wavy hair, and hasn't curled his peyot into a lock, like some Jews do.

This man's hair is curlier, and his peyot are shorter, likely due to him trimming them and the curls being tighter.

This man curled his hair into a tight ringlet curl, likely with the help of gel to keep it together.

This man likely didn't use any gel, and has just twisted the hair strands together into a lock.

This man likely didn't use any gel, but his naturally curly hair allowed him to merely twist his peyot into the tight curl.

A lot of peyot look like this though- these men only left the bare minimum of hair required by halacha to be uncut.

Crowned Female God from Bronze Age Israel

So, depending on the community, peyot can vary from long and very conspicuous, to subtle.

Chabad chassidim tend to have shorter peyot than other Chassidic groups, like this:

I've also seen some Modern Orthodox people tuck their peyot short behind their ears.

The only requirement of peyot is to not cut the corners of the head and leave a little length by the ear, but they don't have to be super long if you don't want them to be.

Hope this helped!

Which of course ruins the whole purpose of getting a haircut if the haircut is unfinished.

Like... I've brought hairbands to my appointments. I've offered to braid my peyot or tie them up so the barber can easily distinguish them from the rest of my hair, but they're just too scared to even try. And I get it. I get it. I'd take that any day than an over-confident barber accidentally cutting my peyot off....but still..... I'd like to be able to get a haircut without having my Judaism or my trans identity be treated as a difficulty.

In that case is it just like well what can ya do or like. Ya get like fake ones if you wa t i guess?

Actually how does one wear a yarmulke while bald is it like. A sticker.

I dont mean disrespect btw idk if it comes across like that, i just like to ask weird questions a lot