Instant connections
Have you ever met a complete stranger, and instantly been able to comfortably converse and connect with them? No awkwardness, no small talk, just instant intellectual conversation. This instant connection is an infrequent occurrence for me, a basis in which I form most friendships and relationships with people. It’s almost a sign from the universe that you were meant to meet that person. If you are unfamiliar what I mean by this instant connection, I mean that spontaneous and quick connection you feel to someone who was just a stranger and you become friends or acquaintances in a short period of time.
I have two theories as to why these occurrences exist between people. The first being the detection of similar interests and experiences, making it easier for you to relate to that person, subsequently making it easier for you to converse with that individual. This theory has been backed by Dr. Rick Kirschner in his book ‘How to click with people’ (Hyperion, 2011), where he states that what makes people click is a combination of personal characteristics and interpersonal resonance based on patterns of similarity. I think that this is an interesting theory to these connections, as it is a reasonable explanation. As similar interests are a good basis to build a relationship with someone. Dr. Kirschner also goes on to say “No doubt, the chemistry of some connections is hormonal”. Which again is another good point, as there have been findings that women who spend extensive amounts of time around each other, become in sync with their menstruation cycles. So what’s to say that hormones aren’t also the result of this chemistry between strangers.
The second theory, being that I had crossed paths with that individual in a past life and being a believer of Buddhist beliefs on rebirth. I believe that our soul is what makes up who we are, and that are bodies are just a change of clothes when we enter a new life. I believe that my soul has experienced several lives, and that these instant connection encounters are reminders of my past lives and that we have crossed paths before. Have you ever visited some where for the first time and experienced de ja vu, as if you have been to that place before? I put both these encounters and experiences down as evidence that rebirth does exist, and people’s souls experience several lives, some more than others. For all you know, you could be sat next to the soul of whom was Winston Churchill or Albert Einstein.
