yay , cooll <3
do yu feel like yu could give some permashy tips ?
please and thankyu anyway :3
PERMA // TRANS SHY TIPS
from a cis shy + social anxiety having pup
shyness is often rooted in self-consciousness and a fear of negative evaluation so talking to beings you are comfortable with about being scared of social rejection or anxious about meeting new beings
clinging to beings you are comfortable with and know well when meeting new people , having others order for you at restaurants , and hiding behind beings your comfortable with or even just standing behind or close to in new situations are all things i do as a cis shy being so these may help you come off more shy
speaking quietly or very quickly when with beings your not comfortable with as if trying to get it out as quick as you can almost like presenting something infront of class when your not ready , also reciting what you need to say in your head a few times whilst trying to find the ' perfect time ' to say it and letting yourself overthink a tad can come off super shy , but a tad anxious ( mostly because the fear of social rejection that often causes shyness )
Hesitating to speak up , avoiding eye contact , or steering clear of being the center of attention are also key traits of beinf shy . try implementing these to your best ability
Shy individuals are often highly empathetic , excellent listeners , and very observant . instead of talking more with new beings focus on listening and observing , if you get close with this being maybe bring up these things to show you where listening and you care ( ex : preferences , fav movies , ect )
Unlike introversion , shy people often want to connect with others but are held back by social anxiety or insecurities . voicing to beings that you are ' just shy ' when meeting them and promising you do infact want to get to know them better can help it come off as cute bashful more than anxious and scared .
more physical stuff include blushing, a racing heart, sweating, or stumbling over words. if your a being who wears makeup wearing extra blush ( in a subtle way ) can help , holding your hands together to let them get sweaty can come off like sweat from nerves , and taking deep breaths before you talk .
a shy being might avoid prolonged eye contact , have a slightly slouched posture , or keep their head down to feel less exposed.
While shy beings have fewer friends often than non shy beings , the relationships they do build are usually very close and loyal. keeping a close inner circle who cares about you can help a ton .
worrying about if other beings like you , think your ' weird ' ect is also super common
oke thats all i have >_< put more tips in the comments and im always taking requests !!
