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People with Borderline PD are extremely sensitive to criticism, and are often times hypercritical of themselves and others. Most of the behaviors are defense mechanisms to help stave off overwhelming feelings. Some of the symptoms are fear of abandonment, unstable self image, paranoid / suspicious about others motives and some I have known have confided a deep desire for people to like them. Not to mention the anger triggers that can send them from happy go lucky mode to mad dog in a meat house mode, in a New York minute.

If a person has all of these fears, worries, moderate to severe anxiety going on under the surface how on earth can we expect them to simply raise their hand and say “Yuppers that’s me, I have a mental illness”….Not going to happen!

One of the most important lessons that I learned the hard way is that if you try to point this out to the person that has BPD you’re in for some real crazy making at least and, you could be in for an all you can eat shit storm from the trigger. The hypercritical component of the condition can possibly kick in at this point as a defense mechanism and your BPD can start to blast you for every thing wrong with you, both real and imagined. Additionally as another defense your Borderline partner can start a smear campaign trying to prove that YOU are the one with the mental illness.

These attacks are born out of the splitting (all or nothing) that is very common with people that have BPD. They see you all good (hero) or all bad (zero) and if you bring up personal faults you will go from hero to zero in a split second. They often believe that you see them the same way, as really great or a low life loser. There is no grey area in between. So anytime anyone starts to point out a flaw it’s perceived as if you are calling them a low life loser piece of crap. Therefore a person with BPD would deny the facts of the illness to avoid the feeling of being a bad person. Hope this helps.

Hank Tahelluride

Your name of Brooke indicates qualities of a leader and organizer but a difficulty in concentrating and systematizing your efforts interferes with achieving your goals.  

You desire a good standard of living and the best quality in all your material possessions.  

You have a friendly nature, well-liked by others for your sense of humour and pleasant personality and you love parties and socializing in general.  

You could be musically or artistically inclined and may often be the "life" of the party and would enjoy finding expression in the entertainment field.

Although the name Brooke creates executive ambitions, we emphasize that it frustrates you through a scattered and emotional nature.  

This name, when combined with the last name, can frustrate happiness, contentment, and success, as well as cause health weaknesses in the reproductive organs, liver, and bloodstream.

Your last name of Bowman has given you an eagerness for knowledge and an intense desire to do something worthwhile in life.  

Being clever, imaginative, and analytical, you do very well in the activities that hold your attention.  

You long for freedom from restrictions and for outlets for your restless qualities, and cannot tolerate drudgery and monotony.  

It is not easy for you to take advice, subsequently; you tend to work alone or independently.  

You suffer inner turmoil and moods at times especially when you feel misunderstood, and being extremely sensitive, you are easily hurt and offended.  

Your quiet intensity is difficult for others to understand and thus, you are on guard for fear of being ridiculed or criticized.  

Loving the outdoors, you enjoy outside activities and the beauty of nature in its many facets.  

Many people do not realize that you have a depth to your nature resulting from having thought a lot about life in many facets.

Although the name Bowman creates an interest in the deeper aspects of life, we emphasize that it causes a restless intensity that defies relaxation.