The people I have known with BPD often suspect that there is something wrong with the way that they behave, however the very nature of the disorder makes it terrifying for them to own up to. What I have seen is, itās common for people with BPD to minimize, rationalize, and justify each and every little mistake and or questionable behavior. Another common thing that I have seen is for the Borderline person to blame others for the chaos and destructive fallout for these behaviors and their is a reason for this as well.
People with Borderline PD are extremely sensitive to criticism, and are often times hypercritical of themselves and others. Most of the behaviors are defense mechanisms to help stave off overwhelming feelings. Some of the symptoms are fear of abandonment, unstable self image, paranoid / suspicious about others motives and some I have known have confided a deep desire for people to like them. Not to mention the anger triggers that can send them from happy go lucky mode to mad dog in a meat house mode, in a New York minute.
If a person has all of these fears, worries, moderate to severe anxiety going on under the surface how on earth can we expect them to simply raise their hand and say āYuppers thatās me, I have a mental illnessāā¦.Not going to happen!
One of the most important lessons that I learned the hard way is that if you try to point this out to the person that has BPD youāre in for some real crazy making at least and, you could be in for an all you can eat shit storm from the trigger. The hypercritical component of the condition can possibly kick in at this point as a defense mechanism and your BPD can start to blast you for every thing wrong with you, both real and imagined. Additionally as another defense your Borderline partner can start a smear campaign trying to prove that YOU are the one with the mental illness.
These attacks are born out of the splitting (all or nothing) that is very common with people that have BPD. They see you all good (hero) or all bad (zero) and if you bring up personal faults you will go from hero to zero in a split second. They often believe that you see them the same way, as really great or a low life loser. There is no grey area in between. So anytime anyone starts to point out a flaw itās perceived as if you are calling them a low life loser piece of crap. Therefore a person with BPD would deny the facts of the illness to avoid the feeling of being a bad person. Hope this helps.
Hank Tahelluride
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