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thatโs one of the best worded comms regarding kink/shaming and identity, tbh. developed after less specifically worded comms either became โpromptfestsโ (insanejournalโs kinkfest) or were trolled to unreliability (dakinkmeme).
That makes sense. A community often needs to experience a problem before it can name and describe the problem, much less clearly define who they are and what they stand for and against.
If you can think of anything additional, let me know. Or hum a few bars and my google-fu will figure out the rest.
TBH, I think dakinkmeme suffers a compounded problem that happened when kinkfest becameย a generic 'promptfest.'
People go into dakinkmeme looking for everything under the sun without realizing that it grew out of the kinkfiction community. When people do not understand what the kink genre is and the rules it plays by (and why it is far more aware of power play than a lot of non-kink fiction/media, much less how consent is managed in actual RL kink), they misinterpret and trolling is inevitable.
Meanwhile, when new fans come in and become super excited by the one thing that is their kink, they aren't given the opportunity to learn what the rules of kinkfiction communities really are and why walls matter. etc etc etc. Cue fanwank.
I am starting to think (perhaps wrongly?) that the only way to put kinkfanfic and other similar kinds of power play fic&art back in a safe space is to have each new member read community rules before they engage *and* to require that the fic remains in the community.
(I've also see too much fanwank when hardcore kink ends up on AO3 without appropriate tags, which is all part of the same problem: new fans have a much harder time learning community rules on the zero-walls platforms of tumblr and Ao3).
Honestly, just rambling here while thinking out loud...