#pda discourse

Y’all need to fucking remember that PDA? Yeah that stands for public displays of affection. Nobody should have to tell ya by now, but your little “real,” lgbt+ shpeel about how it’s revolutionary or whatever does not make your public display of affection immune to the fact that things are different for public situations than they are for private ones, M’kay? There’s actually a time and place to use that as a rebellion, and just standing in line at the fucking Wendy’s is not that time or place.

Oh, and don’t even start with me. I know how it is for us out living our lives just as well as you do. So, I know that you know the fucking difference between someone wanting to start some homophobic shit, and someone who genuinely just wants their goddamn chicken nuggets, and not a fucking romance novel playing out before them in the Wendy’s line.

Get over yourselves and realize that it is okay for anyone to be genuinely uncomfortable with- even lgbt+, public displays of affection, because you’re still in public!! That doesn’t magically change just because you’re lgbt+ and people are assholes about it at times.

I HAVE SEEN ZERO (0) POSTS ABOUT IT

MEANWHILE WHOLE-ASS SEVENTEEN (17) POSTS YELLING AT US FOR IT???

"pda" as a tag is meant to be a content warning for traumatized and romo-repulsed people. that's it. that's all. it's not a moral judgment, nor is it specifically targeting gay people - it's a blanket tag for ALL pda, regardless of the gender(s) involved. expecting traumatized/romo-repulsed people to somehow have an exception to their trigger when the relationship being depicted is a gay couple, rather than a straight couple, is ridiculous.

"but gay ppl have historically been shamed for showing affection -" yes okay but that? isn't? how triggers work? triggers don't care about the historical context? this is really no different from tagging "nsfw" for people?? "pda" as a tag was never about targeting gay people, or saying there is anything shameful or wrong about the posts tagged as such. it is a simple fucking content warning, y'all.

if that bothers you, don’t go. this isn’t a message to ace people, by the way, this is for everybody. i personally don’t like pda. i’m not ace, i just don’t like it. i don’t hate it, or even dislike it as much as some other people, but i think in a situation where i’m surrounded by so many people, i’d already be too overwhelmed by everything going on to be dealing with that as well.

so i don’t go. mostly because i really can’t deal with that many people and that much noise, but i’d be lying if i said pda wasn’t at least a small part of it.

THAT SAID, there’s nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with pda that goes to far. pride is an event for all lgbt+ people, and that includes minors, so if you see two people practically screwing in the street, there’s nothing wrong with being uncomfortable about that. i don’t know how frequently such a thing happens, or if it happens at all, but if that’s the kind of pda you’re worried about, there’s nothing wrong with that.