#pd resources

I feel like it's not a surprise when I say that the idea of what's pushed for "healing" and "healthy" is being as neurotypical, or in this case persotypical, as you can be. To erase symptoms and act "normal". This of course is not a reasonable expectation, and in fact leads to many not feeling like they can make any progress. If they can't reach the end goal, why would they even try? Or maybe even taking steps towards that just aren't feasible in the first place.

In reality, making progress is more about not being overtaken by your symptoms. Being able to have a say in your life. Knowing how to make your lows not as extreme. You don't grow out of personality disorders, age or otherwise. Instead you learn how to manage it. And most of the time that management will not look like what's "normal" or "acceptable" for persotypicals.

I think our most recent example of this is with my acceptance of DPD, and in turn starting to look at my behaviours. Where I'm already coping alright, and where I need more supports.

I realized that one of the things I've been doing, that I've given myself a hard time for previously, is actually a pretty good coping mechanism I have in place. I'm sure no one with DPD is unfamiliar with the need for help with activities, especially self maintenance ones. Food, dishes, meds, that sort of stuff. It's very easy to let this stuff go unchecked and just fall aside because doing it yourself is not an option. At first my system had to either do it themselves, or get someone to tell me to do it. Or my now dp had to check in regularly and get me to do it. I couldn't even bring myself to be able to ask for help. Over time, with this being more of a routine however, I've gotten to a place where I can ask for help. I can ask my dp if I really do need to take my meds. Sure the answer hasn't changed since the last hundred times I've asked. I Know I need to take meds. But I still can't do it myself.

For a good while I gave myself a lot of shit for not being able to do it myself. Because that's not what a functional neurotypical expects of themselves. Upon acceptance of my DPD however, I realized that it's actually a really impressive method I was able to put in place. I'm not solely relying on others anymore. I'm able to get most of it done myself. I recognize a need, and instead of letting it go unfulfilled, I reach out and ask for a reason to fulfill it. Because of my DPD I don't naturally have those reasons the same way someone without DPD would. That's not going to change no matter how much progress I make. What Does change is having found a way to satiate that need. An alternative way to get it met, instead of letting it go unmet. This might not be healthy for an Independent, but it Is healthy for a Dependent.

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Discouraged Borderline — Generally acts pliant, submissive, loyal, and humble. Feels vulnerable and in constant jeopardy. Feels hopeless, depressed, helpless, and powerless.

▐ has avoidant and dependent traits

📃 The Petulant Borderline — Negativistic, impatient, restless, as well as stubborn, defiant, sullen, pessimistic, and resentful. Easily feels slighted and is quickly disillusioned.

▐ has negativistic traits

📃 The Impulsive Borderline — Captivating, capricious, superficial, flighty, distractable, frenetic, and seductive. When fearing loss, the individual becomes agitated. Often gloomy, irritable, and potentially suicidal.

▐ has histrionic or antisocial traits

📃 The Self-Destructive Borderline — Inward-turning, self-punishing, and angry. Abilities to conform and integrate have deteriorated. Increasingly high-strung and moody.

▐ has depressive and self-defeating traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Nomadic Antisocial — They are drifters, roamers, vagrants, adventurers, itinerant vagabonds, tramps, and wanderers. They typically adapt easily in difficult situations, though tend to be shrewd and impulsive. Their mood centers on doom and invincibility.

▐ has schizoid and avoidant traits

📃 The Malevolent Antisocial — They are belligerent, mordant, rancorous, vicious, sadistic, malignant, brutal, and resentful. They often anticipate betrayal and punishment. Often desire revenge. Are truculent, callous, fearless, and guiltless. Often are prone to engaging in dangerous criminal activity, such as grand theft or murder.

▐ has sadistic and paranoid traits

📃 The Covetous Antisocial — They are rapacious, begrudging, and discontentedly yearning. Often hostile and domineering. Often envious and avaricious. They pleasure more in taking than in having.

▐ has negativistic traits

📃 The Risk-Taking Antisocial — They are dauntless, venturesome, intrepid, bold, audacious, and daring; though, often reckless, foolhardy, and heedless. They are unfazed by hazard and often pursue perilous ventures.

▐ has histrionic traits

📃 The Reputation-Defending Antisocial — Needs to be thought of as infallible, unbreakable, indomitable, formidable, and inviolable. Tend to be intransigent when status is questioned. Often overreact to perceived slights.

▐ has narcissistic traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Disquieted Dependent — Restlessly perturbed; disconcerted and fretful; feels dread and foreboding; apprehensively vulnerable to abandonment; lonely unless near supportive figures.

▐ has avoidant traits

📃 The Selfless Dependent — Often merges with and is immersed into another person. They become engulfed, enshrouded, absorbed, and incorporated, into others, willingly giving up their own identity. They will try to become one with or an extension of another person.

▐ has self-defeating traits

📃 The Immature Dependent — characterized by being socially or psychologically stunted, unversed, and childlike. Act undeveloped, inexperienced, and gullible. Often feel or truly are incapable of assuming adult responsibilities.

▐ variant of the "standard" dependent

📃 The Accommodating Dependent — appears gracious, neighborly, eager, benevolent, compliant, obliging, and generally agreeable. Tends to deny any and all disturbing feelings. Readily adopts a submissive and inferior role in most situations.

▐ has histrionic traits

📃 The Ineffectual Dependent — often appear unproductive, gainless, incompetent, and meritless. They typically seek an untroubled life. Often refuses to deal with difficulties. Generally untroubled by shortcomings.

▐ has schizoid traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Phobic Avoidant — Have a general apprehensiveness counterbalanced with an avoidable, tangible cause. Problems often symbolized by a distasteful and specific object or circumstance.

▐ has dependent traits

📃 The Conflicted Avoidant — Characterized by internal discord and dissension. They often fear being dependent. Often or easily unsettled. Typically unreconciled with themselves. They are hesitating, confused, tormented, paroxysmal, and embittered by unresolvable angst.

▐ has negativistic traits

📃 The Hypersensitive Avoidant — They are intensely wary and suspicious. Usually alternating between panicky, terrified, edgy, & timorous; and thin-skinned, high-strung, petulant, & prickly.

▐ has paranoid traits

📃 The Self-Deserting Avoidant — Tends to block or fragment their self-awareness by intense dissociation. Attempts to discard painful images and memories. Casts away untenable thoughts and impulses. Often suicidal.

▐ has depressive traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Languid Schizoid — They experience a marked inertia and generally deficient activation level. They appear intrinsically phlegmatic, lethargic, weary, leaden, lackadaisical, exhausted, and enfeebled. They often are unable to act with spontaneity or seek the simplest pleasures, may experience profound angst, yet lack the vitality to express it strongly.

▐ has depressive and dependent traits

📃 The Remote Schizoid — They appear distant and removed: inaccessible, solitary, isolated, disconnected, secluded, and aimlessly drifting. Tough, they are often peripherally occupied. This subtype is seen among people who would have been otherwise capable of developing normal emotional life but having been subjected to intense hostility lost their innate capability to form bonds. Some residual anxiety regarding this hostility is present.

▐ has avoidant traits

📃 The Depersonalized Schizoid — They are disengaged from others and themselves. They see their "self" as a disembodied or distant object. Their body and mind are sundered, cleaved, dissociated, disjoined, or entirely eliminated eliminated. Often seen as simply staring into the empty space or being occupied with something substantial while actually being occupied with nothing at all.

▐ has schizotypal traits

📃 The Affectless Schizoid — They appear passionless, unresponsive, unaffectionate, chilly, uncaring, unstirred, spiritless, lackluster, unexcitable, unperturbed, and cold; all emotions having seemingly been diminished. They have a strong preference for rigid structures and unemotional logic.

▐ has obsessive-compulsive traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Insipid Schizotypal — A structural exaggeration of the passive-detached pattern, they are marked by a sense of strangeness and nonbeing. They often appear overtly drab, sluggish, inexpressive and are internally bland, barren, indifferent, and insensitive. They often have obscured, vague, and tangential thoughts.

▐ has schizoid, depressive, and dependent traits

📃 The Timorous Schizotypal — A structural exaggeration of the active-detached pattern, they appear warily apprehensive, watchful, suspicious, guarded, and shrinking, acting to deaden excess sensitivity. They are alienated from themselves and others and intentionally block, reverse, or disqualify their own thoughts.

▐ has avoidant and negativistic traits

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]

Note: all definitions are taken directly from Millon's writings, which are quite old, with only a few edits and rephrasings to make things more digestible to a modern audience.

📃 The Unprincipled Narcissist — Has a deficient conscience. Is unscrupulous, amoral, disloyal, fraudulent, deceptive, arrogant, and exploitive. Act akin to a con artist and charlatan. Appear dominating, contemptuous, and vindictive.

▐ has antisocial traits

📃 The Amorous Narcissist — often sexually seductive, enticing, beguiling, and tantalizing. They are quite glib and clever. Generally disinclined to real intimacy while indulging hedonistic desires. Characterized by pathological lying and potential swindling. Tends to have many affairs, often with "exotic" partners. (Somewhat synonymous with exhibitionist narcissism)

▐ has histrionic traits

📃 The Compensatory Narcissist — Seeks to counteract or cancel out deep feelings of inferiority and lack of self-esteem. Offsets deficits by creating illusions of being superior, exceptional, admirable, noteworthy. Self-worth results from perceived self-enhancement. (Somewhat synonymous with Vulnerable, Hypervigilant, or Oblivious Narcissism)

▐ has avoidant traits

📃 The Elitist Narcissist — Feels privileged and empowered by virtue of a special childhood status and pseudo-achievements. Their entitled facade bears little relation to reality. They seek a favored and good life. Is extremely upwardly mobile and cultivates special status and advantages by association with others.

▐ variant of the "standard" narcissist

More of Millon's subtypes:

[ASPD] [AVPD] [BPD] [DPD] [DPPD]

[HPD] [OCPD] [PPD] [NGPD] [NPD]