#partriarchy

"Smurfs" (various artists, 1970-1990)

There was only ever one woman Smurf because we all know that more than one woman Smurf would have been Very Awful and Too Much to Bear by the Smurf patriarchy. 

[Photo: Smurfette and other Smurf figurines on display at the Powerhouse Museum]

@ravenbohique does not care about feminism like he says he does. Weeks ago he said, "No. Dorito refers to the upside down triangular shape that musclemen have, with large upper body and skinny lower body. You have a tendency to react emotionally without thinking first." This was a response when I ignorantly thought a post on Maui was fat shaming.

He had unrealistic expectations of me to know body building terminology. I admit that I was wrong and that it wasn't shaming, but he could have came to me about it without painting me as "emotional" online. He's response is that he was justified in calling me "emotional" and that he had every right to call me out online, when I supposedly share his post multiple times and accused it of something it wasn't. This was a lie, this was the first time I misinterpreted his post. I felt like he was personally attacking me because he was complaining about how angry I am on my Facebook and that I write rants on people that I don't know, which also isn't true. I didn't get why he was policing what I write on my Facebook, Like who cares if someone is angry on Facebook, it doesn't affect you lol. Yet he knows my Facebook so well, why didn't he call out his white friends for being racists and laughing at a meme that compared Nicki Minaj to the baboon on  Lion King ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  

I didn't get why he refused to listen to me when I said that calling a women "emotional" and telling them they couldn't think when they write, is a tactic what misogynistic men use to keep women from being politicians. He thought that was the only word he could use to described what he thought I was doing without sugar coating, which isn't true..... If you believe a woman is acting a certain way you can call her out without using misogynistic tactics. He did all of this not because he wanted to genuinely call me out. I found out he did all of this because THOUGHT I was talking bad about his "culture". I was trying to reply to a post asking a man about sugar skulls. I said "oops sorry" on the wrong message to @ravenbohique. He NEVER replied. He waited MONTHS to make up lies on me online and in my messenger, when he could have been clarified to him. Instead he chose to make it out that I was out of my lane because I'm a dark skinned women from the African diaspora. He's comments was erasure to me because my people is also Native to Mexico, my family isn't just Black. Just because of my skin color doesn't mean I don't have the right to ask about something that is related to Indigenous People of Mexico, what he was doing was anti black erasure. He's Taino Puerto Rican, his people did not start sugar skulls, yet he went off on me because he thought I was critiquing   his "culture" and no I'm not saying he can't be a part of it. When I was trying to call out the original post for saying that white people wearing them is messed up because they started and benefit from assimilation in the Americas. That also that his post was out of his lane because he said that "culture should be shared, if you respect it and educate yourself on it". When he has NO right to lump other People of Color's culture into this and that he has no right to tell another culture if they should share it. White People tokenize posts like those and think they can copy Black culture because a non black person of color said so. I was also confused why @ravenbohique would share this because it was problematic and came off as tone policing others that don't want to share their culture, when there are multiple reasons why people are like that.

 He is not pro feminists, I have seen him complain about the word patriarchy and how he doesn't like it because it's so called ignores women that is a part of it. When feminists know VERY well, that women can be complicit in patriarchy. He also has shared an anti black video, that also perpetuated racists stereotypes about men from India the man in the video was Black and had a fake accent in the video. THe video also was perpetuating hypersexualized stereotypes of black men being good in bed that stemmed from Black people being sex slaves. And that is also the reason why white men ask Black women if they had a big black penis. He doesn't identify as Black so he was out of his lane for sharing. I didn't comment, yet I'm "emotional" and angry all the time according to him all the time. I don't think he said I'm angry all the time as place of anti blackness. But he didn't consider that he doesn't know the FULL back story when I make a post about the misogynoir I've been through. He just runs with assumptions on what happened just like how he thought I was talking bad sugar skulls, when I was talking about white people. If men are for feminism like they claim they would listen and not run around with "male fragility" He did apologize for accusing me of disrespecting his “culture”. But he did not apologize for his sexism and he never will. I have seen him center men  in another, way but I can't call it out because it's out of my lane most likely. Just because someone is dark skinned doesn't mean they're not mixed, multi cultural, or etc. Some of us do not feel comfortable talking about our cultures because it was denied to us because of anti blackness in our communities or slavery. My West African was erased to me, then it  was insensitive when he said that culture is what you are raised with, ignoring that mines was ripped away from me and that several Black people are trying to learn about the variations of West African culture that was denied to us.

I don't care if he lies and said this never happened, I said my truth, you don't get to call someone emotional, while you harbor bad feelings for something they DIDN'T  do.

-End of rant of someone I KNOW